Why am I feeling guilty for ignoring her?

[ImNotYourToy]

Someone who I thought was my friend, turned out not to be. I've noticed she only messages me if she wants something. When she needed a place to stay, she asked me and I said yes. When she needed me to run errands, I did it. When she needed to borrow some money, I lent her it. When she needed help, I gave it. I did all of this from the goodness of my heart.

Since she moved near me, she hasn't once came by to visit me. She's asked me to go hers a few times and I did because our children are both similar age so they can play together.

I know we both have busy lives but we can all find that spare few hours to visit someone can't we? We both drive! I've stopped messaging her. It has been about 2 months then she messages me out of the blue and asks me if I am busy... that was it. No hello. No how are you. I just blanked it and deleted her message. It was on WhatsApp so she'd be able to see that I've read it.

I still feel that little bit guilty for ignoring her because I never ignore people but what's the alternative? Do I message and say I am not going to be used anymore or just ignore her and hope she gets the message?

Sorry for my rant. Honestly I have hardly no friends. I've got 2 friends who I see sometimes but that's it! I do sometimes realise that just being a working housewife is all I'm good for because all my life people have just treated me like shit and used me because I have mug written on my forehead.

Think you did the correct thing by just deleting it. If she values the friendship she can try a little harder at the least. I've had a few of these and think if it's one way just call it a day. Her loss.

It's not your fault you've been used. Sometimes people see a nice person and instead of showing the same kindness that's afforded to them, they see an opportunity to exploit.

Keep being you, don't beat yourself up, you sound like a kind and caring person. Eventually a true friend, one deserving of your time, will show up.

I know it's hard as I don't have many friends either and have found myself in the same position countless times but I know that true friends are hard to come by.

Appreciate who you do have in your life and who is deserving of you.

Oh, and don't feel guilty! If she wants you as a friend and is true, she will make an effort and not expect anything from you. If not, it's her loss not yours.