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Coyk · 17/02/2019 10:07

Hi, I really need some help. My wife and I have been married for 15 years. She’s 7 years younger than me. Two weeks ago she went on a hen do with some new friends of ours and ended up kissing another man. I found out as she was being odd and over loving then I saw a message from the guy on Facebook and told her I’d messaged him to call her bluff. She owned up and said it was nothing more than a passionate drunk kiss and I messaged him after this which he confirmed. As did another person that was on the hen do. I’m devastated as we have three kids and whilst I know she’s a flirt and very good looking I never thought she’d go physical and I just can’t get it out of my mind. It’s ripping me apart. We are not arguing and I’ve tried to understand it but just don’t know if I can carry on with here even though she’s my absolute world. She’s sorry but I just can’t cope with this. Any advice or thought people have as to if I’m over reacting or anything I’m all ears. She’s assured me there are no fundamental issues and it was just a very drunk kiss but what am I to think? I’m so scarred.

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Mollie3 · 18/02/2019 19:33

It was only a kiss, it sounds like you both have a lot to lose if you cannot forgive her. She could have taken things further but chose not to and probably felt guilty as being over loving etc. So long as she is not acting secretive now and is open with her phone, social media etc then I think you have a good chance to move forward from this. Be honest with her about how you are feeling and go from there. Perhaps also make it clear that if it happens again the trust will be broken for good (if this is indeed how you feel). Confide in a close friend of yours and get their opinion on it too, would help to share this with someone face to face who you trust. A problem shared is a problem halved after all!?
Good luck

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