Contact with NRP and illness

[Sparrowlegs248]

I'm.not sure what the best way forward is with this. Stbxh has the children (2 & 3) one weekend day. It's the only day I get a few hours "off". I'm ill. Sick. One of the children has started with it tonight too.

Stbx due to collect tomorrow a.m. Wwyd? I was already pretty desperate for this time to my Self. Now I feel like I'd like to sleep some of the day. But I'm.pretty sure poorly dc won t want to go, which is fair enough but stbxh will expect that dc does go regardless.

Obvs if they don't go, I don't get this week's few hours off. What's the norm, if there is one?

I think the question is whether he’s capable of caring for a sick child. What was he like if they were ill when you were together? I don’t think there is a norm really, it’s another of those awkward poopy things to figure out after you split up.

Hope you feel better soon either way OP. x

I don't know the norm but if send them - part of being a parent is dealing with the downsides like illness as well.

Will he put them on a sofa under a duvet and just let them be I’ll in peace or will he insist they do whatever he had planned and trail them around a play park or aquarium or whatever?

You don't get to slack off parenting just because your child is sick. He's their parent too, which means he takes the good with the bad, he doesn't just get to deal with the fun stuff. Kids go to contact, dad can deal with the vomit for the day.

Thanks. I've just passed out for few seconds. This is awful

He's text to say he's not feeling well so not sure he'll make it. Ffs .

He doesn’t get to tap out because he’s ill or one of the kids is ill he’s a parent too. Text him back and say ‘so am I, and so is dc, you can have a duvet day together like ive had to do yesterday’