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I am a absolute fool of the biggest foolishness

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parrotish · 16/02/2019 17:53

I have namechanged for this I am so ashamed of myself , please flame away for I deserve it . I am fairly sure .... no actually I'm certain I have just paid for a puppy farm puppy .

My son who has ASD has begged for a dog for nearly a year , he has no friends in real
Life and I think he thinks it can be a friend for him , I am well aware I will be doing the majority of the work . I am a fairly experienced dog owner we have had 3 rescues over the years all who came with baggage.

Tried numerous rescues , no one wants to know due to us also having a 3 year old apart from one who will import the dog from Romania 👀. Decided to look in paper and found a puppy that was fairly local and sounded ideal , socialised with children both parents can be seen etc etc .
Turned up to view the puppies today and it was a farm a beautiful house with very expensive cars parked up ..... with a barn full of barking dogs that I could hear and various breeds running round the yard . I should have run then in know . Went in and the puppies were in a box in the kitchen the "breeder" got them out and they were terrified 😞 my son sat with one on his knee who bless her tried to wag her tail he was smitten as she sat with him . Personally I think she was too scared to move ...She was also covered in fleas ..... so I did what every idiot does and have paid most of the money for this poor puppy . I am supposed to collect her tomorrow .
I could murder my utter stupidity , why didn't I just walk away and say no thank you , I felt really intimidated while I was there it was almost like just pay is and go I and was trying to make it a special day for my son .
What the fuck do I do ? I have just single handily no doubt made another dog suffer as they will just replace the one I have bought ? Do I just message them and say sorry changed my mind , let's face it they only care about the money and they have they now . Can I turn round a puppy farm puppy dog with care and attention , she will be going straight to the vets if I pick her up

Fuck fuck fuck ,!!! Why am I so bloody stupid and can't stand up for myself.
Ps we apparently saw the mother who was a nervous little thing too .

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CoatTails · 16/02/2019 17:55

I have done the same in the past, through ignorance and naiviety.

The dog is, and always has been, wonderful.

thereinmadnesslies · 16/02/2019 17:59

I think it would be very difficult to walk away in those circumstances. I hope you don’t get flamed. Your intentions were good. I hope it all works out with the pup

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parrotish · 16/02/2019 18:14

I will indeed report them as those puppies are not in the best of condition just Googled them and they appear to be licensed breeders too and I wonder what the others in the barn are like 😩. This litter was apparently a mistake .... hmmm
I couldn't be more sorry for what I have done , i just wish I could turn the clock back and I should have gone there first without my son for a start .
The poor pup is absolutely terrified , I actually want to go back and grab her now but then we are a busy household is bringing her into this worse for her I will happily try my absolute best for her but is it enough with such a poor start in life ?
I can't get over her trying to wag her tail at N ... probably the first kindness she had ever had .
Idiot ... I'm just an idiot 😡😡

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WhoKnewBeefStew · 16/02/2019 18:21

They prey on people with good intentions. Your puppy will be lovely, but I’d also report to the rspca too

oopslateagain · 16/02/2019 18:22

Thing is, you've already paid and will have fuck all chance of getting your money back. You should never buy from a puppy farm, and you know that, but as long as you know you're probably buying trouble and are willing to pay the vet fees and take care of the poor little mite, you'll be rescuing it from a hell of a life.

Yes, report to the RSPCA. But go back and get the pup. Also prepare your son that the pup is likely sick and be ready for any fallout if it turns out to be really poorly. Sad

WeCameToDance · 16/02/2019 18:24

My mum bought a puppy from what we now suspect was a puppy farm when I was a child. Obviously she, nor me, would do it again but when you dont know you dont know. My dog died a couple of years ago now but she was a wonderful dog. The runt of the litter and I dread to think what would have happened to her if nobody had bought her. She had bad seperation anxiety her entire life and was terrified of being in the car or being taken to the dog groomers/vets. I suspect her first weeks were not good. Controversial but I would take the dog and then report them to the relevant people. You have paid for the dog now and you know you will give it a good life. I would try and see it less as supporting puppy farms and more as protecting a puppy that has probably been treated badly from birth. Whats done is done so don't be hard on yourself.

Heatherjayne1972 · 16/02/2019 18:26

But you are rescuing one little dog from a horrible life aren’t you?

I’d get the dog anyway get it checked out by the vet ( obviously)
And report the farm to the rspca

You’re not a fool. But now that you think somethings not right you have to alert the authorities
Don’t beat yourself up op

ILoveMaxiBondi · 16/02/2019 18:28

Ok well as you’ve already paid I think you should take the puppy because if you don’t they will just sell it again for the same price to someone else. Also, your son think he has already picked his puppy!

But definitely report. And then get on with tasing your new family member.

ILoveMaxiBondi · 16/02/2019 18:28

raising!

reallybadidea · 16/02/2019 18:30

I have just single handily no doubt made another dog suffer

Stop beating yourself up, you're not responsible for someone else's actions. I think you'd have to have a heart and nerves of steel to walk away without one given the circumstances you describe.

One of our dogs is almost certainly from a puppy farm (we got adopted him when he was a bit older). He's the loveliest, happiest, best socialised dog you could hope for. It doesn't have to be a disaster.

welshsoph · 16/02/2019 18:31

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parrotish · 16/02/2019 19:03

Thanks for all your advice ( and not just telling me I'm an arsehole which would be fitting )
I think I'm going to delay picking her up till
Monday first thing , as hard as it is to leave her for another 24 hours there I can then get her and drive her straight to the vets . I am prepared for an epic lecture there but at least he can check if there is anything obviously wrong get her worried and flea treated and start her vaccinations . I am also insuring her now with the best policy I can find, I know it doesn't kick in straight away but at least it covers us for anything not immediately obvious which may turn up later on .
Then it's all systems go to get her settled in and make a great life for her , the hard work then starts .... I have never had a puppy before, always had gently used rescue variety so no doubt will be tearing my hair out sooner rather than later on here .
I just hope we can make things right for her , and I also hope these people are happy with the money they make from the misery of dogs , from the looks of the house and cars it's obviously pays well 😡 fuckers !
Then again it's fools like me that keep them going .....

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ILoveMaxiBondi · 16/02/2019 19:10

OP some vets offer 4 weeks free insurance for new puppies when you register them. I know mine does. Might be worth waiting til Monday and see if yours does and what the policy covers if you decide to go with them long term.

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parrotish · 16/02/2019 19:38

Good point thank you . I seem to remember a poster in the vets for the puppy club which includes neutering vacs flea worm and insurance . I shall wait my appointment , will pop a photo on of the poor little girlie when we get her home and settled in . I hope we can turn it all around for her 🙏

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TonTonMacoute · 16/02/2019 19:49

These people are cynical bastards because they rely on people being kind hearted and wanting to help the animals.

You probably haven't done the wisest thing, but if you report them then that could help the other dogs they have.

I hope it goes well with your new little 🐶

goingtotown · 16/02/2019 20:25

The Vet may contact the RSPCA.

SomethingOnce · 16/02/2019 20:54

Hey, OP, what’s done is done. I think I’d have felt intimidated in the situation you describe, given they’re probably not very nice people.

You sound like you’ll do everything you can for her. Good luck!

DragonflyInn · 16/02/2019 20:56

Don’t beat yourself up. You may have bought one dog from a puppy farm but by posting here and sharing your story you may well have helped prevent a number of other people doing the same.

Bluntness100 · 16/02/2019 20:59

I would take the dog, get it check by the vets, and then report them to thr rspca. It might not be a puppy farm, it might be exactly what rhey said, simply they keep dogs, possibly working and the puppies were a mistake, and maybe they haven't done right by them.

Bluntness100 · 16/02/2019 21:03

And I would add that if you report them to the rscpa, no other dog will get harmed and you're giving one a good home.

SpringForEver · 17/02/2019 00:13

You may have made a mistake, and OK you feel bad but by taking this little creature you are giving her a good, loving home. In your position I wouldn't have been able to leave her there after agreeing to take her.

Once you have her, as others have said, report the farm. It might be worth Googling as there has been some publicity regarding breeders that are not what they should be.

Maelstrop · 17/02/2019 00:23

Unscrupulous breeders rely on you feeling sorry for the puppies and let's face it, puppies are designed to appeal to the most hard hearted people. Of course it's not ideal, if the mum was be nervous, I'd be worried, if that even was the mother, but I had concerns about my last pups dam and he's fine, actually.

Good move to leave it til Monday. Buy some decent fleaspray and do the car as soon as you get her home. Confine her to one room until the treatment from the vet kicks in then fleaspray the area/her bed thoroughly.

LilQuim · 17/02/2019 01:08

Bless you! And bless the pups!

My only tip (everyone else covered so much, so well), is that if she's nervous, get some Adaptil products to help calm her. And in the car, give her a T-shirt or something that smells of you, maybe spray with adaptil too.

I use the adaptil plug in at home for one of my dogs who is scared when it's windy. I've found the plug in & the spray to be best.

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