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Neighbour harrasment

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sulzie · 16/02/2019 14:54

4 years ago , on New year's Eve, we had a shed fire which burnt down my shed and the one next door. The cause was a stray firework. It caused so much damage and took 3 fire engines to put it out.
For some odd reason, my neighbour has blamed me and from that day has harrassed me in very petty ways. I do my best to ignore her and so does my adult, autistic son.
Recently, since last year, bizzarly she's upped her game. She intimidates me in the street by barging up to me and getting right in my personal space, her daughter started parking her car right across my driveway and this week a friend approached us and told us she's been gossiping about us at her work place.
I have worked all my life since I was 16 and my son has worked too. I am now 57 and disabled with osteoarthritis in my spine, arthritis in my knees, hands and neck. I have mental health issues and suspected diabetes. I asked her over the fence to stop talking about us and she marched right into my garden right up to me and said " it's not your son I talk about , it's you ! At least I work and pay my bills" She is incredibly nasty and for no good reason. Her husband keeps right out of it and has done for a long time. He just let's her get on with it.
I am tearful and scared of becoming really depressed.
I have reported her to the housing association and they first said it's a personal matter between you two. Then because I mentioned harrassed, they said it's a police matter. I am too weak to face the police .
I will admit that I shouted at her daughter to remove her car off my driveway but try to ignore them
What on earth can I do ?

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EmilyR1984 · 16/02/2019 14:56

Go to the police. Ring the non emergency number.

Aprilshowersarecomingsoon · 16/02/2019 14:59

See a solicitor op. We had a letter sent to ours when she was harassing me. Cost about £50.
Email your MP also. Your HA can't just ignore a nasty tenant's behaviour imo.
Just Google MP for .
Do not accept such an awful existence.

Dontstopmeow · 17/02/2019 12:02

You sound completely beaten down by this horrible person. I am really sorry you’re going through this. Do you have anyone who can give you some moral support at the moment? You will need to muster all your strength but you can fight this. Start by writing down every incident with dates and times as accurately as you can remember. Then go straight to the police, they will be very gentle with you and will treat her harassment as a hate crime due to your disability. They will take it very seriously and will support you. Stay strong.

sulzie · 17/02/2019 14:09

Thank you all for your support. This has been going on for 4 years. We don't use our garden , we feel so intimidated. I have tried many avenues to try and get support and this is the first time anyone has said anything helpful or kind. 💕

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Applecrumble79 · 18/02/2019 07:51

Get the police involved or perhaps move house

Aprilshowersarecomingsoon · 18/02/2019 08:44

My ds has made one complaint to his local council regarding ndn, they have had a letter already and a visit is imminent.

You need your MP to speak to the HA.

Dontstopmeow · 19/02/2019 10:46

I hope it gets resolved op. The police are very good in these situations - both my parents are disabled and they suffer increasingly frequent ableist harassment/hate crime incidents. Society is so cruel at the moment. The police have been really supportive each time.

sulzie · 19/02/2019 12:06

Good advice but moving just isn't happening. I have applied for a bungalow but a move will trigger a UC claim, then I won't be able to afford a move.This government has stitched a lot of people up. I am trapped.

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Bellasorellaa · 25/02/2019 16:13

The police are very good in these situations

not in london they arent

sulzie · 26/02/2019 15:47

Just an update
I contacted the police by email and they popped round. They were very helpful and listened to everything I said. Their advice was to keep logging everything and if I have good reasons to contact them again, they will put her on a harrassment charge.
I realise now that I needed to get tough. She was probably the school bully .
The atmosphere around my neighbourhood has changed because obviously someone saw the police at my door . I really just want her to leave us alone .

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Mumofaprinny · 27/02/2019 22:27

Good for you Op and the more people that stand up to this bully the better! Hopefully you will be able to use your back garden this summer in peace!💕

sulzie · 28/02/2019 09:53

Mumofaprinny thank you !
All I wanted was for all the nasty stuff to stop . I don't want to take things any further, hopefully we can enjoy our garden this year Smile

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