So I do NOT get on with my in-laws (whole big story I won't bore you with) I wrote my mother-in-law a b/day card and wrote her name instead of the word mum and she lost her shit! Now my husband has NEVER bought/wrote any family member a card before we met and he's not done since. I've never even received a card and for the last year DH didn't either but to keep the peace i sent one in the post. Now I do understand that she is his mum but she's not mine and it was clearly in my writing. If we had always got on maybe I would feel comfortable doing so but I don't. It's his grandfathers birthday coming up and I don't know what to write. None of his family are talking to us but I feel that if we don't send one if/when everyone makes up it will be thrown in our faces. What would you write. I've also only met his grandfather 5 times. Yes he could write the card but he's angry and doesn't even want to send one! HELP!