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If you're past the honeymoon period, do you still fancy the pants of your DP and how long have you been together?

55 replies

TFInotmonday · 15/02/2019 17:02

Hello all,

So it was just this really. I just fancied starting a light hearted, Friday evening thread.

We're technically out of that phase and where we're not ripping each others clothes off every 3 minutes now, I still really crave them. 6 years for us.

Your turn Smile

OP posts:
HelenaJustina · 15/02/2019 21:00

Married 15 years this year. We had proper toe-curling, amazing sex last night because we still find each other v v sexually attractive!

U2HasTheEdge · 15/02/2019 21:00

12 years. Fancy the pants off him.

BTW that doesn't translate into sex that often because of tiredness, teens and so on, but I think he is the most gorgeous man ever and he still gives me butterflies. I love looking at him.

Andromeida59 · 15/02/2019 23:13

Yes. Been together 14 years.

ToastyFingers · 15/02/2019 23:18

11 years and YES! Now more than ever. He is definitely improving with age.

Designerenvy · 15/02/2019 23:22

Together 23 years and yes, I fancy him like mad!

WickedWytch · 16/02/2019 06:30

12 years and he’s still dead sexy.
From the moment I met him I never fancied another man. Even the ones that are technically attractive aren’t quite, to me, because they’re just not him.

nrpmum · 16/02/2019 06:44

Bit of a complicated one, but 26 years and I fancy the pants off of my husband.

GoodFortuneAttendThee · 16/02/2019 06:48

29 years and my heart still skips a beat when he enters the room. He's life itself for me.

Ca55andraMortmain · 16/02/2019 07:01

12 years and yes, I do still fancy him. We're currently in the thick of it with a baby and a toddler though and our relationship is definitely on the back burner for now. Doesn't change how much I fancy him, just changes how much I can do about it right now!

importantkath · 16/02/2019 07:25

Married 16 years and yes! I can't get enough of him

dustarr73 · 16/02/2019 07:29

26 years i do still fancy him.But i dont think he feels the same

Earthmoon · 16/02/2019 07:30

Married almost 7 years, dh is more handsome now compared to when we first meet. I only wish it would work the same way for me.

SpaceCadet4000 · 16/02/2019 08:03

Together 7 years and yes! And he gets better with age!

statetrooperstacey · 16/02/2019 13:09

10 years this year and I still fancy him. More if anything.

CheddarAndCrackers · 16/02/2019 13:19

When he makes the effort, yes I fancy him. Him wandering around all day in grotty joggers and a dirty sweatshirt because he's "working" ie about 10 minutes mowing the lawn - nope.

dontgobaconmyheart · 16/02/2019 13:21

I think the replies are always disproportionate on threads like these OP. Don't get me wrong it's absolutely lovely to hear people are still loved up but I don't think people very often admit they aren't feeling that way as obviously it often begs the question as to whether you should be with the person and people don't like to go there when life is in full swing.
People lose sexual attraction for a whole host of reasons; medication, mental health, physical health, and imo whilst retaining a healthy passion is lovely, there's a lot more to a successful relationship than that. I've known plenty of people who've still cheated regardless.

Personally it goes through peaks and troughs for me and probably has way more to do with hormones and circumstances, how well we are getting on, how stressful the day to day is, than much else. My DP is lovely, a wonderful person, and I do very very often look at him and think he has lovely eyes, or skin, or how funny he is or how much i love him. I don't feel any 'need' to rip his clothes off though, and don't think that matters. We've been together 13 years, for context.

bellinibobble · 16/02/2019 13:29

Yes and 10 years.

Footle · 16/02/2019 13:34

Around 40 years and yes.

AllGoodDogs · 16/02/2019 13:37

Been together 15 years and he still makes my fanny flutter, yes 😂

We both look very different now, obviously and are definitely softer around the edges but we still find each other attractive, still flirt and be silly together which keeps that bond I think. Sex is still great too Grin

dementedma · 16/02/2019 13:37

32 years and no, not remotely

strangerthongs · 16/02/2019 13:47

love DH very much, together for 22 years, married 14 years. The attraction was never looks though. we are very similar and have shared interests.

Kirdypurdy14 · 16/02/2019 14:00

13 years and still in honeymoon mode Wink

JustHereForThePooStories · 16/02/2019 14:01

18 years and I still get butterflies when I hear him opening the front door in the evening.

He seems to get better with age.

punishmepunisher · 16/02/2019 14:04

8 years and I still find myself sitting and just staring at him wondering how I got so lucky.

He's a gorgeous man and I'm still totally daft about him. 🤮

Ellapaella · 16/02/2019 14:10

I love this thread. I've been with my DH for 15 years and still fancy the pants off him. He's clever, funny, sexy and such a kind man. I consider myself very lucky that he's mine.