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I have to cancel don't I?

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SparklingTwilight · 15/02/2019 08:59

DD is coughing and says her chest hurts, temp is 38.4. DS has a physio appointment this afternoon at the hospital. No one is answering the phone, no one is calling me back (left a message), called the main hospital number. What else can I do?

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HarrySnotter · 15/02/2019 09:21

Have you a letter with the number of the physio department on it rather than the main hospital number?

lljkk · 15/02/2019 09:57

You think your DD will give something contagious to others, is that why you want to cancel?

I'd still expect to go. If she's too ill to come with you then she should probably be in hospital.

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SparklingTwilight · 15/02/2019 09:57

Yes, I've been trying for 1.5 hours! Left a message. It either switches onto answerphone or is engaged. Tried through the switchboard but no one picked up.

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GeorgieTheGorgeousGoat · 15/02/2019 10:00

I'd still expect to go. If she's too ill to come with you then she should probably be in hospital.

That is the most ridiculous thing I’ve ever read on here.

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SparklingTwilight · 15/02/2019 10:00

You think your DD will give something contagious to others, is that why you want to cancel?

Yes. First day I'll so I imagine very contagious. There's often a lady in a wheelchair and an elderly man recovering from a stroke in the same physio room as DS. DD has a nasty chesty cough so don't want to risk her passing it on. If it was somewhere I could keep her away from people they I wouldn't cancel.

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lljkk · 15/02/2019 10:03

I don't believe most people would cancel for that.

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SparklingTwilight · 15/02/2019 10:04

Maybe they wouldn't. That's why I want to speak to someone!

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pinkyredrose · 15/02/2019 10:05

How old is she?

CommunistLegoBloc · 15/02/2019 10:06

I'd still expect to go. If she's too ill to come with you then she should probably be in hospital.

This is full on bonkers.

woolduvet · 15/02/2019 10:07

Is ds old enough to go in by himself whilst you sit somewhere else with dd

AhhhHereItGoes · 15/02/2019 10:07

Being considerate of others.

How downright selfish of you, OP?

AhhhHereItGoes · 15/02/2019 10:07

I meant ! Not ?

No question there.

GiveMeAllTheGin8 · 15/02/2019 10:08

Could someone come and watch dd for an hour?

INeedNewShoes · 15/02/2019 10:09

I wonder if DS could go in by himself while you wait outside with DD? Or could a friend or relative take DS?

lljkk · 15/02/2019 10:12

Would be inconsiderate to waste NHS time & presumably her son needs the physio or he wouldn't have the appt. So those two harms done for sure if she doesn't go.

Meanwhile, maybe her daughter doesn't have anything that the (hypothetical vulnerable who may not even be there today) people won't catch (already had it or won't have enough contact to catch it).

OP is betting on the Big Fat Maybe situation being worse than the Absolutely Definite outcomes.

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SparklingTwilight · 15/02/2019 10:22

hypothetical vulnerable who may not even be there today)

He has had physio every other week for the past 9 months. The other two people are always in the same treatment room as DS so no reason to assume otherwise today. DD is 6 so can't be left alone at home. Relatives away so can't take him.

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lljkk · 15/02/2019 10:28

I'm sorry you don't have good choices, OP.

Even your old chap & others might be on hols... or may have existing immunity against whatever germ has got your DD. or may have died from something else in meantime.

I just know I don't like to make decisions based on hypothetical events.

If you ever got thru to hospital I think they'd tell you for sure to come along anyway, with the poorly kid if needed. Hospitals are absolutely chockablok full of sick people already. What's one more?

SpanielEars070 · 15/02/2019 10:30

Is there a central booking phone number? That's how you contact people at our local hospital, they will cancel the appointment for you. It's impossible to get through to a department direct.

Mummyoflittledragon · 15/02/2019 10:31

Careful of not turning up without speaking to someone. You risk your ds being discharged for failing to show up. Personally I would go and try to keep your dd as far away as poss.

floribunda18 · 15/02/2019 10:33

Call the central hospital switchboard.

CripsSandwiches · 15/02/2019 10:33

I'd still expect to go. If she's too ill to come with you then she should probably be in hospital.

That's literally insane. There are about a million levels of sickness between being too sick to accompany people to an appointment and being sick enough to require hospital treatment.

The hospital letter usually has a password and appointment number and you can reschedule online.

floribunda18 · 15/02/2019 10:34

Sorry, and just ask them to pass a message on that you want to cancel the appointment.

HarrySnotter · 15/02/2019 10:34

If you ever got thru to hospital I think they'd tell you for sure to come along anyway, with the poorly kid if needed. Hospitals are absolutely chockablok full of sick people already. What's one more?

Are you completely out of your mind? My friend's dad waited in A & E for almost 20 hours last week for a bed because of his breathing difficulties. He has terminal cancer. I can assure you, hospitals really don't want sick people hanging around unnecessarily.

People get sick, it happens OP. My DD has appointments every few weeks because of her health issues and we've had to cancel a couple of times - sickness bugs etc.

CripsSandwiches · 15/02/2019 10:35

I just know I don't like to make decisions based on hypothetical events.

Do you wear a seatbelt when you get in a car? Or not bother because a RTC is only hypothetical. It's not hypothetical that there will be other people in the hospital who don't want to catch a bug off OP's DD.

lljkk · 15/02/2019 10:38

If you ever get thru to the hospital, OP, let us know what they advised you should do.

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