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Have I got any legal rights to stay in the house

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keelan76 · 14/02/2019 21:04

Hi my partner asked me and my two children to move In with him last year.Its defiantly not something I jumped into doing and gave it a lot of thought as id be moving my children away from everything and everyone that they had ever known. They had to change schools an nursery, and we moved from a busy city to the quite country side. it all seemed to be going fine until my 4 year olds behaviour got to much for him to cope with. At present she is being assessed for ADHD.She adores him and sadly follows him everywhere which I can see sends him stir crazy
.His moods were/are very up and down to say the least but Id always put it down to stress at work etc, plus we now have his elderly father living with us. Who by the way I practically look after everyday! An to be honest I think has had enormous pressure on us as a couple as we never get any "us" time. Even when the children are at my mums for the odd weekend.He decided at Christmas he no longer wanted to continue with a relationship as he no longer wanted to do the "family thing".
I don't want to move my children again so soon as my son is in the middle of his G.C.S.E 's and is currant having counciling due to my father passing just before we moved.
Have I got any legal rights to stay in the house until my son finishes school next year?

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Aprilshowersarecomingsoon · 14/02/2019 21:06

His house?

Youmadorwhat · 14/02/2019 21:06

Well, you’ve been there a year, you don’t have kids together so I’m imagining no you have no rights at all. But...then again I don’t know much about that kind of stuff.

Jon65 · 14/02/2019 21:08

No, not unless you have made direct contributions to the mortgage, paid for an extension or modernisation, or your partner intended and conveyed that intention to you for a proportion of the property to be yours.

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JustHereForThePooStories · 14/02/2019 21:08

No, of course you don’t. You need to leave.

RancidOldHag · 14/02/2019 21:10

No, you don't.

You can either appeal to his better nature to find a modus vivendi in his house until GCSEs are over (might work if he's sitting them in a few weeks time, won't if exams are over a year away) or find a short term rental property whilst you work out where you want to be in the longer run.

Starlight456 · 14/02/2019 21:11

I don’t believe so.

However I would also consider how your Ds would cope there during gcse year

Bec2020 · 14/02/2019 21:12

Yes its his house but I do contribute to shopping and give £100 each week towards bills, hs never asked me t but I put it directly not his bank account.Plus i practically give100% of my time and effort doing literally every thing in and around the house and for his pets and father. Which I don't mind because its my nature to nurture.

stiffstink · 14/02/2019 21:12

What financial contributions have you made to the house?

Have you been his unpaid carer for his elderly dad?

Did you have any discussions about any of the financial/practical burdens before you moved in?

What are your options for moving out? Can you do that as quickly as you moved in or does he need you to look after his dad?

punishmepunisher · 14/02/2019 21:12

If you're not married, it's his house, and he is not their biological father then no, you have no legal rights at all unfortunately.

Racecardriver · 14/02/2019 21:13

Well you haven’t really provided any information. Owned? Rented? What is your financial contribution?

Cheesycheesytwist · 14/02/2019 21:15

Contributing to shopping and bills doesn't give you any rights to stay in the house. If he asks you to leave of course you will have to. You say you gave it a lot of thought so what was your plan for if it didn't work out??

Youmadorwhat · 14/02/2019 21:16

but I put it directly not his bank account

Sorry I don’t understand this? Do you give it to him or in his bank account?

If it goes into the bank account do you name the transaction e.g house payment, house bills etc

Unfortunately your “time” means nothing to a court etc.

TearingUpMyHeart · 14/02/2019 21:16

Better to start thinking practically. It's been six weeks on already. Has he started asking about your plans yet? What options do you have for moving? Will you stay local or move back?

abbsisspartacus · 14/02/2019 21:18

Talk to your local housing association stop giving him money save up and let him look after his own father

pollypockett · 14/02/2019 21:20

You’ve had a name change fail OP

greendale17 · 14/02/2019 21:20

No you don’t have any rights.

Nicknacky · 14/02/2019 21:20

Don’t you think just moving on into a house of your own is the better long term option?

theworldistoosmall · 14/02/2019 21:22

Unless the place is rented and you are on the tenancy agreement, then no you don't have any rights as you aren't married.

Bec2020 · 14/02/2019 21:22

Yes I think id be better off renting somewhere local to the children school until my eldest finishes his exams.Its not about trying to dig my heals in because if someone doesn't want to be with you then I respect that totally. It was more of a case I am/was worrying about the upheaval this is going to have on my children and obviously trying to keep a balance for all our sakes.
Thank you for your advice.

NerrSnerr · 14/02/2019 21:29

Could you rent somewhere nearby until your son finishes his GCSEs? You can't stay in someone else's house.

JustHereForThePooStories · 14/02/2019 21:32

Paying £100 a week plus a contribution to shopping to feed and house you plus two children is a pretty sweet deal. Will you be able to rent somewhere with what you’ve saved on living costs since you moved in with him?

CarolDanvers · 14/02/2019 21:56

I'm actually quite at this. You move in with some one for a year and after you split you expect to have his house for as long as it suits you? You're joking aren't you? He may be a complete ass hat but whether he is or not it's his house. Can you imagine the fury and resentment he'd feel? Find your children a home and get out of his house. You should never have moved in under these circumstances in the first place. How was that ever secure for your kids?

SilverySurfer · 14/02/2019 22:44

No, you have no rights as you have not been contributing to rent/mortgage and paying £100 a week towards bills counts for nothing.

I agree with CarolDanvers and feel so sorry for your children who had the initial upheaval of being moved from their home and schools and now the same thing is happening again.

NorthEndGal · 14/02/2019 22:50

If your name isn't on any paperwork, and there is no proof of your contribution, there isn't much you can do

PCohle · 14/02/2019 23:00

No of course you don't have any legal rights to his house.

I'm sorry you're having a difficult time but putting your kids though a huge upheaval to move to a home they had absolutely no security in possibly wasn't a great choice.

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