Need suggestions regarding a sensitive topic

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I am looking for suggestions about something close to my heart.

A family wedding is coming up this year and all of the children are involved in some way (bridesmaids and ushers ect).

Unfortunately a close relative has lost their child as they passed away before birth.

We as a family would like to honour this child’s memory in the wedding some way, as all other children are involved.

So does anyone have any suggestions how this could be done in a really lovely way as we don’t want our relative to feel like their child has been forgotten.

Ask the parents if it is all right to include their baby.

Do they have a name that could be reflected in flowers? Rowena, Daisy, Fern?

I don't think I would make honouring the memory of the stillborn child part of the ceremony which is purely a celebration.

But as an alternative to gifts, people could be invited to make a donation to a relevant charity - one that supports parents of stil-born childen, or researches into miscarriages.

Are the bridesmaids carrying flowers? Could one carry two...could then give to child’s parents or place on their grave later? FWIW, I think it’s beautiful you have thought to include their little one (provided they want to, as I guess everyone will feel differently).

Could you get a charm of their name made into the bridal bouquet? Something very subtle but that the parents will know includes their child in the wedding?

I like purplepjs idea.

Purple PJ's idea is a good one. Remembers the little one, but doesn't detract from the celebration.

Just to give a bit more context, I have 2 sisters. One older and one younger, the younger one is the bride. Our older sister sadly lost her son. All of our children are involved in the wedding, I know my sister would really appreciate my nephew being involved in some way. She struggles a bit as more distant relatives will always avoid bringing up any topic to do with my nephew. She does understand why but also finds it very healing to talk about him.
So myself and my younger sister would just like to make her child feel included in some way.
I hope this makes sense?