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Compassion fatigue

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PaulHollywoodsSexGut · 13/02/2019 16:08

Is this a thing?

ATM am 6 months pregnant, have had house sale fall through twice, very demanding day job, two children under three BUT feel to some extent I’m on top of it but being stretched very thinly.

What is bothering me a lot is that I’ve made time for friends of late - one in particular - who cancel and rearrange and cancel again for dubious reasons (feeling tired)

One chum has now rescheduled me for a 10th time now, I fully expect it to be cancelled, it’s almost laughable but she is having a hard time personally atm with her work being hard and her personal life in a state of flux as her and DP are swaying over whether to try for kids.

I am sympathetic but I feel thinly spread emotionally and I worry that when I meet her “for all the things I need to pour on you as I’ve not seen you for ages” I’ll accidentally go grey rock due to compassion fatigue?

I do care, I just can’t shake the multiple cancellations and absolute disregard on her part for all the mad shit I’ve got on too.

Am I being a hard shit or is this a thing? Running out of caring tokens???

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cjt110 · 13/02/2019 16:16

Definitely a thing.

Sometimes shit can just bear down on you.

hidinginthenightgarden · 13/02/2019 16:19

Its a thing yes.
A bit of self care goes a long way.

PaulHollywoodsSexGut · 13/02/2019 18:16

It really does feel like the tank is empty and it’s not even like I want to punish her for the multiple cancellations as such; it’s just that I’ve got the overwhelming feeling of having lost all the fucks I have to give.

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