What do your teens do in the evening?

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So DS normally plays football after school. Cones home we have tea together (no phones) then he just disappears for the rest of the night on phone chatting to friends, just glued to phone.

Offers of film nights, games are met with an eye roll.

I just feel I should be doing more.

Anyone else find this stage hard, bring back the days when he was glued to my side!

My 14 year old is the same, I sometimes feel I don’t exist. Meal together, upstairs face timing, you tube etc etc. We do make the most of the weekends but its not always harmonious. It’s a tough time for them I get that but it’s definitely tough for us too

Mine are the same....we have dinner together, then they just disappear until bedtime

16yo: work, Explorers, helps at Beavers, sees girlfriend, archery. Despite all of that be seems to spend most of his time in his room, on screens, with some homework and revision thrown in.
He was arsey with me earlier then cane down again after tea and we've watch tv together, his way out making up probably.

13yo: suddenly turned into a teenager and spending most of his time in his room. Will watch tv with me, play with the dog, cubeing (his new craze), judo, rollerskating, hockey.

Too many typos!

Homework most evenings. DS14 will still watch some tv with us, depending what we are watching, Then faffs about getting ready for bed

I was the same at his age. Wanted to chat to my mates, read my books, listen to my music... not hang out with mum. He'll come back out of it around 20.

2 teen DCs here: Scouts, rugby training, basket ball, X box and netflix, oh and some homework now and again.

Netball 2 nights a week, chats to friends on FaceTime, hogs the bathroom messing with various lotions and potions, harrasses her little brother, comes down to stare in the fridge a lot, sings at the top of her voice for long periods of time. Very little homework or revision appears to be going on. Conversation tends to be her shouting at me if I ask about revision or exams and asking if I will buy her stuff or do something for her. It's a right laugh in my house at the moment.

Explorers. Fencing. After school music club. Homework. More homework.

No phones/computers after dinner here, unless it's homework. We watch TV together, usually comedies. Currently watching Black Books together.

More homework. I'm glad they're doing all the homework, I never bothered and it showed in my gcse results!

It depends really,some evenings our DD15 will be seeing friends,if she's not with friends she'll either be playing with her sister 11 or one of her Brothers 17,20,22,they'll play a game,or play on a games console or computer or play cards,that or she'll be watching tv or a movie with us or she'll do some yoga or gymnastics at home or she'll be singing and dancing around the house or on the phone or computer with her friends or reading or working on her art work or trying out new looks with clothes/hair/make up/nails.

DS17 goes boxing and to the gym a couple of times a week,if it's not a boxing night he might go out with friends or go out and chill with his older brothers and they're friends,or he'll go into town to the cinema either with friends,his brothers or on his own,if he is at home he'll either be making and producing music or watching a movie with us,playing on his gamesole or on his computer looking up things for his music and art work or be adding more of both of his own work online or on his phone/computer with his friends.

They both also manage to fit in homework and a family dinner.

Older dd just moved out into student land. Boo hoo. Younger dd 13 talks non stop about her day, who said what to who, what her teachers did, who fell over, etc etc. We eat , more talking about who said what, who made her laugh etc. We start to watch a film. Midway through she goes for a bath or decides she has homework, then later I hear more chatter and lits of singing as she FaceTimes.

Homework, tea then chill if watch football or play football. 3 kids with 7 different teams between them so a lot of training/matches/gym work.

Homework, gaming, YouTube, watch tv as a family for an hour or so most nights, but dd loves quiz shows! Pretty much the same as us - sometimes she plays computer games with dh

What age of teen?

My 13 year old still spends a lot of time in the living room and loves watching a film together - our main problem is finding something suitable for both her and our youngest. We've had to have 13 and 11 year old film night with DH and 7 year old and me elsewhere a couple of times.

She draw and paints a lot too - in the living room if we're all there.

She also goes on her phone but only if nobody's paying attention to her and / or the TV is on 7 year old's choice or some car program DH and 11 yo like.

16 will be different I imagine. Its right and proper that teens seperate from their parents IMO plus they have a lot of school work and need to mentally "check out" for a bit sometimes, need to be alone, need their peers - all normal and as it should be and I wouldn't push a 16 year old to do "family time" .

DD1(18) when home will mostly hangs out downstairs watching tv or will play a game with us.
DD2(15) when home spends all her time in her room either on netflix, youtube or facetime or doing her hair or doing homework. She will watch a couple of things that we like as a family.

both are polite though without too much attitude, so I'm happy.

13 and 15, out at swimming, drama, football, Explorers, etc for part of most evenings, homework is done in the kitchen or dining room, then watching TV either in the living room or our bedroom. No tvs, laptops, consoles etc in their rooms, both really only use them to sleep in.

It’s just tough isn’t it?

1 night a week he goes to badminton.

Friday nights he stays at pils.

Rest of the week he is watching his iPad, DVDs or listening to music in his room interspersed with eating and revising...

18 year old in his room gaming/studying//on phone.
Comes down now and again for drinks/food
See's girlfriend Thursday and Saturday
Plays ice hockey Saturday day time.

16 year old more gaming and less study despite my nagging.
Always seeks me out at bedtime to say night night and tells me he loves me.
No girlfriend yet.
Does swim at weekend with his dad and goes to see bands quite a bit with a friend and usually my DH.

14 year old DD spends most of her time in bathroom styling hair or applying makeup. Generally being disparaging of anything I say.
Little studying lots of phoning.
Was a dancer but gave that up.
See's lots of friends at weekends and is starting to go to parties with strict curfew.

Think they are fairly typical …

I was a teenage goth and DH spectacularly failed his A levels due to excessive partying.

All good in the end .

DS1 isn't quite 13 yet but getting there.

What he does depends entirely on whether he has wifi/ xbox access or not. If he has truanted or been in other significant trouble, I disconnect his phone from the wifi and block his xbox: he then spends the evening being as vile as possible downstairs in the hope that I will crack and out of sheer desperation reconnect him so he will leave me alone. If he has attended school, not been in trouble, etc, he is either on his phone or xbox until his nightly bedtime tantrum when I take his phone away and his xbox is automatically re- blocked.

Oh, and in the summer months, he tends to spend hours out and about, without permission or contact, so I spend my summer evenings searching for him and discussing his latest missing episode with the local police.

It's a joyful existence /s

Ds13 boxes and goes to the gym 3 times a week for a couple of hours, trampolining once a week. PS4 an hour a day. Homework (needs reminding). Showers without prompting each evening. Reads or watches tv with us. YouTube on his phone. Seeks me out when other dc aren’t around to ask advice about girls a couple of times a week.