We have a ds (7) and two teen dsd's, who have always come every weekend. Ds absolutely adores his sisters and they've always had a great relationship, which I'm really grateful for.
Now they're getting older, they're naturally starting to drop the odd visit and losing interest rapidly in doing anything with ds. Up until fairly recently the younger dsd loved playing with him, now it's all about her phone. He's become the annoying little brother I guess.
I must stress I totally get it, it's all normal teen behaviour and we're just pleased they still want to come as much as they do. It's a very flexible arrangement, pretty much led by them.
I just need some tips please on how to manage ds's expectations, he gets so hurt and upset by the quite sudden change in behaviour. I've been trying to take him out more whilst they're here, but I'm practically forcing him out the door, he just wants to be with them, as he looks forward to them coming all week.
We've also tried doing different things altogether and separately to change the normal routines, but they don't really want to do anything with us, which is also normal I know. I just don't know how to get through this stage and keep everyone happy, it breaks my heart seeing ds get so sad and I also don't want him mithering dsd's all the time either.
Does this happen in all families or am I just more sensitive because it's a step family?
Any suggestions would be gratefully received please.