Would it bother you if your DP had previously (before knowing you) been a sperm donor...

[TheFuckfaceWhisperer]

And after almost two years together and living together and everything, only just casually dropped it into conversation today?

I think it's something he should have told me (it wasn't anonymous, it's somebody he knows and lives local), but he doesn't think it's anything to even mention because, in his words "I have nothing to do with it"

It's funny, my DH did donate his sperm, through a sperm bank, years before we met. I'd totally forgotten about it until now! It was in the days when you could still be anonymous and I think he told me about a year into our relationship. Didn't bother me then or now. Some people may have had children they desperately wanted as a result. Good thing to do in my book.

I wouldn't care and I think I'd think it a positive - he's done a very kind thing for another family. But then I've seen family members go through fertility treatment and it would have been so sad if they hadn't been able to start their family because of some mad stigma about sperm donation.

His sperm, his body, his choice is my opinion

Ginkythefangedhellpigofdoom you seem to be completely missing the point. It isn't the fact he did it, it's the fact he kept it from me for TWO YEARS!

He has no contact with "it" (found out it's a boy), he wasn't helping a friend out as such, just a friend of a friend of a friend.

Thanks everyone. I'm just a bit shocked. And how casually he mentioned it. We were talking about sperm donation, somebody I know is thinking about it, I said "Basically, he'll go to her house, cum in a cup then leave her to it" and he just said, "That's what I did when I did that!" Erm...what now?!

I started out thinking that's really cool then read that It's someone he knows and he doesn't seem to care and that's what would worry me! How strange! I would expect him to be proud and interested

It's someone he knows and he doesn't seem to care and that's what would worry me

I know! He even referred to him as "it" yet some on here think he's amazing

If it were pre me, I don't think I would necessarily have a huge issue with it, but I watched Sons and daughters in the 80s and would worry about any future child inadvertently starting a relationship with their unknown sibling...