Have you ever spoken to another parent about bullying/being mean to yours?

[georgedawes]

Before anyone tells me it's a bad idea and leave it to the school, I do realise this and would no doubt say so if a friend asked me their opinion. However I'm wavering! Have you ever told another parent what they are doing? Did they believe you? I'm put off by the fact that they're unlikely to believe their child capable of what they're doing; but wonder if a "tell your child to keep away from mine" might work.

Unlikely to believe that little Grace or Gideon are capable of it because they are so kind and honest (no - they're sly and manipulative!).

Let school handle it.

I have spoken to a parent, but not through my choice - it didn’t go well

In the first year of secondary, DD was having issues with a girl who sued previously been good friends with in primary school.

School were dealing with it fine. Girl’s mum came storming up to me in the local co-op, started shouting, etc. I told her exactly what had been happening, but she wouldn’t accept it.

I had screen shots of horrible, vile messages that on my phone that this girl had sent my DD which I showed her - still wouldn’t accept it.

It was sorted by school in the end

I did it once - made a real fuss. Kids were friends again the following week - our relationship never recovered. Now I stay out. You only hear one side of the story leave it to the school

I’ve spoken with a couple of parents directly. One I accepted that my own child had probably had a lot to do with the trouble between the two of them but still spoke to the other girls mum and we talked to our daughters together. Probably one of my proudest parenting moments to date actually and the girls are such good friends now as I now am with the other girls mum.
The other just had a ‘my child would never do that’ response so I went to the school and they dealt with it.
Sometimes it’s best to let the school do it first off but take action yourself if it continues no matter who the other parents are.

I have. From initial observation the mother was everything you would expect from a "scummy mummy" very loud, fake uggs, several kids no fella, you know the type.
Anyhow she was horrified! She said if she would have words and if she finds he's been bullying, she'll come down on him hard. Anyway she must have because he had stopped, but he was still making my daughter feel uncomfortable in class, perposly closing the door when she was coming through instead of holding it open, freezing her out of things, telling others not to play with her because she's a tell tail, that kind of thing.
So the mum sugedted a play date. Both of us to go and the kids, just them. It actually worked! Not long after they was boyfriend and girlfriend. It didn't work out because they were only 6, but theyve remained friends.
I'm having similar problems at the moment with another girl. Her mum's not having non of it though so I've invited the kid for tea tomorrow. See where we go from there.