Does your teenager swear in front of you?

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Last night me dh and dd17 was having a conversation last night about a customer dh was working for. The couple had a teenage son who was 15 and dh was telling us about the language this boy was yelling to he's mother because he couldn't find he's football boots. It got me thinking, I've never heard my kids swear,they've never swore when I've been in a heated argument with them, nothings ever slipped out. Ds16 is always in his room with his headset on gaming and I've never heard swearing come from him either.

Dd14 is difficult. She called me a bitch today, I think it slipped out because she was really embarrassed afterwards and was really apologetic when I took her phone off her and told her she was grounded for 48hrs.

Dh is not the father to my 3 teenagers and he's mum has told me what an awful teenager he was to her. Me on the other hand didn't curse in front of my parents until I was in my mid 20s. My parents rarely swore so it wasn't something I was used too so it didn't come natural to me.

If your kids swear in front of you how old are they and what do you think of it?

Mine do😶
They are all grown up now, but i still remember the shoot of wtf that went through my whole body when I heard my young teenage boys swear in front of me for the first time. Ds1 was alojg the lines of 'he was totally pissed off' and dh2 (coming out at the ge of 13), confidently told me his callsmates were fuckers.
They were.
But 9nly for a short time😊

Had either child sweared at me, they would not still be walking in a straight line, but as a descriptive, i had no real problem. It marked a change in the relationship between us, between child and parent and adult and parent. It just happened, with no fanfare.

I thing there is a lot to decry about teenagers. Swearing, when appropriate, is not one of them😊

My 17 year old does, but only lately. He could say fuck, shit and the odd time cunt. Doesn't bother me. I swear like a sailor. I have always said that they are not to direct swear words at anyone as in , 'fuck you,' or 'you are a bitch'. But if he says fuck it, or fucking homework for instance, I don't stop him.

My parents didn't swear, my older sisters don't really swear but my younger one does. I gave up trying to hold back the swearing many years ago so I would swear in front of parents. My mother gave up trying to pull me up on it. My 84 year old aunt will swear when talking to me - but probably not in other company. She probably feels free when talking to me . If I meet new people I don't keep my swearing in check. It's just me. My younger kids hear me swear all the time but never say a bad word at all. Dh doesn't swear regularly so when he does it's over something serious.

I am so sorry for typos. Hope you get the gist!

Both of mine do 13 & 18 but very occasionally and never at each other.

Yes teen can swear in front of us. He cannot (and doesn't) swear at us.

I don't mind milder ones such as piss, shit and dick since they were around 18 because there aren't any alternatives which don't make you sound like a toddler or a biologist.

I don't mind swearing in general but there is a time and a place for it. You are not with your mates, you are with your parents so it is not appropriate.

Insults don't slip out. They are always deliberate.

Yes they do. Not at me, but around me.

I am 37 and still wouldn't dare swear in front of my mum though.

Even though we swear a lot in conversation none of us (all 4 of us) never swear AT each other iyswim.

Mine does (dd19) but never AT us, and usually in context, not just willy nilly iyswim?

Mine are 13/15/17 and all feel comfortable swearing in my presence. I swear in my parents' presence.

They manage not to swear in situations where it would be inappropriate despite our horrific behaviour at home

I would have died a death rather than swear in front of my mum and I'm glad that it wasn't acceptable growing up. I hate frequent swearers, in work the younger generation I have noticed seem incapable of saying3 words without an expletive in there. I think it sounds really aw ful. Growing up I th ought fart was the F word (that was a swear words in itself)

There is a vast difference between swearing in conversation. And swearing at someone. Never would I have sworn at my parents. But in front of them yes. Obviously there's times and places that you don't, but in general I am a bit sweary and don't have a problem with it.

My ds (14) will swear in front of me. Never at me. If he swears gaming he's pulled up in it.

I grew up like you - never heard it and never did it.

However my ds is autistic and use to self harm in frustration. Once he'd learnt to release it verbally it came out as swearing. Far better option!

So yes. The odd fuck and shit don't bother me or get a reaction. But he's not allowed to swear in public, at teachers etc, in front of my parents/siblings etc or as part of a general sentence. Just when he's offloading at home as an expression of his anger.

Yes he is now 18 years old & he been swearing since he was 13 but he doesn't do it in front of people.

No I dont swear in front of my parents especially my mother.... She sometimes does occasionally say shit to describe something but never have I heard her use the F word. I'm not from a sweary family and my daughter I def would not swear around her no matter how upset I was...and once she is of age I'd hope she isn't one of those girls.