My name is wrong on my DD's birth certificate!

[PhilidelphiaFreedom]

This isn't something that happened recently, but it does really bother me.

Where we lived when DD was born, we needed to book an appointment to register DD's birth. DD was an extremely sicky baby to the point leaving the house at times was such an ordeal. On the day of the appointment, just as we were about to leave, DD did a HUGE projectile vomit all over me. Not just clothes, my hair was soaking. There was no way I could leave the house without a shower/ wash & dry hair etc and we had to leave there and then.

DH then offered to go without me. I said to him "please ring me when you get there and we'll go through all the questions together to make sure it's all correct". He agreed. Form filling etc really isn't his strong point.

Anyway, next thing I know, he came back home with the birth certificate. "It's okay, the questions were all very basic" he said!

I took it out and MY NAME was wrong!

I am catholic and years ago I'd mentioned to him about confirmation names and what mines was. He put my confirmation name on DD's birth certificate as part of my name. Which it isn't!

I was gutted at the time and looked into fixing it but I was told that it would just come up as a correction at the bottom of the birth certificate and that the mistake would still show on there.

Is it wrong of me to still be a bit gutted about this? Should I have it corrected or just leave it as is and try to forget about it?

This would annoy me too. I'd try and correct it.

It honestly really gets to me. It pops into my head randomly and when it does it makes me feel a little angry towards DH. I haven't told him that because I know I'm being unreasonable but it's just one of those things that can't really be undone if that makes sense.

I wonder if fixing it would in some way make me feel better, even though the error would still be there.

Change it if you think that would make you feel better.

However I think perhaps you should speak to your DH about it. Clearly it bothers you and you're having difficulty moving on from it.

Does this Incident reflect any wider issues in your relationship? Is he perhaps inconsiderate of you in other ways, or slapdash with tasks you've entrusted him with? Is he pulling his weight with your difficult baby?

I don't want to sound like a cod psychologist, obviously you might just be understandably hacked off by this cock up.

I’d try and get it corrected, it’s a legal document and should be accurate

Your less than 6 week old baby did a huge projectile vomit leaving both your hair and clothes soaking?

Right. I'd have been off to a&e in that case.

Your less than 6 week old baby did a huge projectile vomit leaving both your hair and clothes soaking?

Right. I'd have been off to a&e in that case.

Yes. That is what happened. It was a daily occurrence for DD at that point. The GP and health visitor we're both aware of the situation so no need for a&e.

DH knows how upset I was at the time but I haven't told him that it still pops into my head and upsets me.

I think it's because I asked him specifically to call me and run through it all and he didn't do it. We have a great relationship other than that so I know it's really not worth dwelling on but I can't help it sometimes.

Helpful @shpoot 🙄

I would fix it. And bring it up every chance I could with dh 😉

You need up get it corrected. You never know what situation she might find herself in life where proving parents, nationality etc might be important.

We managed to get her a passport without chancing the birth certificate (it was complex but it went through) so that took the pressure off a bit but you're right about having to prove who your parents are. That would be a sticking point at the moment.

It's just an extra name he has stuck on? As confirmation names are?

So on your birth cert, you're Sarah Emily.

For your confirmation, you took the name Tabitha.

So he has put your name down as Sarah Emily Tabitha? If that's the case, then I actually don't think it is problematic.

scpoot. Common occurrence here. DD sick a few times a week roughly and will require a full change of clothes for her and whoever is holding her, unless we catch it in a bowl. Seriously. That's reflux for you. She's gaining weight just fine.

I totally understand. When I took ds to be registered. I had all names printed out thinking how hard can it be to copy down names. Well the lady pretty much got every name wrong. Things had to be corrected 4 times. In all of that I missed one of my names being spelt incorrectly. The worst bit was we didn’t realise until we went to apply for ds passport. So now my name has been corrected but I hate the fact it is written as a correction.

He might have filled it in:
First name: Sarah
Second name: Emily
Any other names: Tabitha
He probably thought he was doing a great job for remembering your confirmation name bless him. I had an ex like that. Thick as two 6 inch cavity blocks, with the cavity being the operative word. But his heart was in the right place.

African people and royalty can have a massive amount of names. Just two that I can think of. I don't think it will matter. A lot of forms will ask for 'your name as it appears on your passport' etc.

If it's like the Tabitha example and changing the certificate would just go as a correction on the end which you don't want, could you formally change your name to include the new middle name? Maybe not but maybe that might work...

Changing my name wouldn't work unfortunately because I have another DC who would then have my name wrong on theirs 😩

I think a correction in the margin is the only option.

The confirmation name has gone on the birth certificate as if it were a second middle name.

Just get a correction on it then. Bring in your birth cert and get dc's birth cert corrected. Save you getting annoyed at the plank lol (lighthearted)

When I married ds2 dad and registered him again they but his place of birth wrong.
A quick phone call and his new birth certificate was ready the next day.

That obviously wasn't a name error though.
If it happened so long ago I'm not sure what you could do. Ide just ring and ask

I have 2 middle names on my birth certificate and actually use my 2nd middle name as my “official” name.
My passport only uses 2 of my names and in a completely different order.
This was 30 years ago, my dad was with me, I was 16 and they said it was ok to swap it if my dad gave permission

I do however think if it was my child and I’d had no say in it, as in the OPs case I’d try and change and discuss with DP.
Maybe he didn’t want to stress you as the baby was already ill. Just talk to him.

I'd be willing to guess though, that it might not actually matter in the long run.

My birth certificate has my mums confirmation name on as her middle name (even though she hasn't got a middle name and AFAIK confirmation names aren't 'official') and it has not caused any problems. I'm 25 🤷🏻‍♀️ I know it's annoying but it won't cause any issues.

Are you in the UK.This happened to me, daughter could not get passport with birth certificate wrong and the entry had to be corrected.But the new birth certifacte did not show error just correct details.

On a side note, can I just say, that Sarah Emily sounds like a beautiful name. (Not so sure about Tabitha).

Surrey hills was it the exact same problem? An additional name added on?