I posted before about SIL2 frequently asking my elderly (nearly 80) PIL to run around after her and was advised to keep out of it as they're all adults and it's their decision to help her out. Fair enough, I've kept my mouth shut!
But, this morning DH and I spoke to his parents and had a real shock when we discovered that they were planning to travel 90 miles to help her out again this week. They live in a part of the USA that's been hit with really bad weather lately - schools closed all last week, deadly low temps, people told to stay indoors. When we chatted, it was snowing heavily outside their house and they said SIL2 was leaving her house to go to the supermarket for the first time in days....but she still expected them to drive 90 miles to take care of her dogs!
DH was really concerned and tried to talk them out of it, they shouldn't be driving in that weather. They kept saying that this course was really important for SIL2 and they had to go. He also tried to ring SIL2 and texted her - no response.
Ultimately, it's their decision to go, of course, but DH feels that his sister needs to start thinking about their parents' welfare more, such as arranging a pet sitter in bad weather (she never wants to spend the money). I don't think she's a bad person, just used to asking and expecting help from her parents in any situation.
I think DH has a right to voice his concerns- what do you all think?