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Dad keeping things at his house am I been unreasonable?

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Overreacting1 · 10/02/2019 20:04

Ok so we split early 2018 I moved into a new house we split time with my daughter 50 / 50 one week at a time all seemed to be going well. He’s a mummy’s boy so his parents are close.
My issue is he claims he’s skint but bought himself a new sports car I was paying all the childcare and lessons etc I asked him to at least contribute towards the childcare as it seems he keeps booking extra with no thought because I was paying so told him he had to contribute he moans consistently about it but goes out all the time doesn’t live the lifestyle of a skint person so at times I feel guilty then I give myself a talking to!
I’ve always bought all her clothes and shoes etc and it’s never been an issue we hand over a bag with all her clothes etc for the week each week, but I’ve just found out I’ve been buying her clothes and winter boots etc when she needed them and obviously pack her bag each week with whatever she needs in it only to find her dad and family have been buying her the same things but keeping them at his house so they are not allowed to come my house on my week! So just forked out a pair of boots in the sale for her to find she has a new pair at his house but they have to stay there. Am I been unreasonable to be really angry about it...
He didn’t even buy her any Xmas presents I did it all and he contributed a very very small amount we had him over for Xmas day I cooked bought all the food and then obviously she takes some of her toys to his house as she wants to play with them... any presents bought by his family are not allowed to come here again she told me daddy says there to keep at his house!
I’m soo mad

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hidinginthenightgarden · 10/02/2019 20:06

Yes it is unreasonable but is not likely to change so stop sending stuff. Uniform yes, everything else, she should have enough of at each house.

happinessischocolate · 10/02/2019 20:17

It won't change so stop sending stuff with her, just makes sure she knows as she grows up that your Xmas presents are from you and are separate to daddy's.

With the childminder surely you only pay for the hours she dies fir you?? If he books hours then he needs to pay for them.

I've bought up 2 kids with no financial help from the ex at all, we've been totally skint at times whilst he goes off on holidays with his latest girlfriend but the kids know who's paid for everything

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