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Save the Date Card

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Woodyden · 10/02/2019 18:23

Received a save the date card to a wedding abroad last year and this year no invitation to the actual wedding 🤔
Not too bothered if I am honest but I don't want to appear rude by not mentioning it or pushy by asking where our invite is? DHs friend more than mine btw and we are not that close so no worries really! Oh and I know the wedding is happening because its all over FB!
What would you do ?

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SleepingStandingUp · 10/02/2019 18:24

When's the wedding?

We're you intending to go?

username79999 · 10/02/2019 18:25

I'd ask , if you got a save the date the
Invite may have got lost in the post .

MilkTwoSugarsThanks · 10/02/2019 18:30

Hi! We had a "Save The Date" card for your wedding, but no invitation. I'm sure you're aware that this isn't usual (Save The Date's are only ever sent to definite guests) so I thought I'd better check in case it has been lost in the post.

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Woodyden · 10/02/2019 18:30

July and yes I was actually looking forward to going but my DH wasn't keen I know ...

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RosieEffect · 10/02/2019 18:33

It's still a bit early for the invite. Many don't send them out till 8 weeks in advance.

chipsandgin · 10/02/2019 18:37

I would assume the invite had been lost in the post. A simple solution is to send a message/text/email & say 'DH and I were looking at booking flights up for the wedding but we only have the save the date card here - wondered if you could send more details/info about accommodation etc. Really looking forward to celebrating with you! Woodyden and DH xx'

If it is lost then it's a perfect opportunity for them to say 'oh dear, must be lost, wondered why we hadn't had the RSVP' - if they really have dropped you from the list it makes them feel a bit awkward, which given that it wouldn't really be 'on' to do that is no biggie!

letsdolunch321 · 10/02/2019 18:39

Do you know 100% the invites have gone out?

marmiteloversunite · 10/02/2019 18:39

Might be a bit early for invites to go out. Do you know anyone else going to see if they have had invite yet?

Awrite · 10/02/2019 18:42

Yeah, send Chipsandgin's message.

No bad thing to be keen. It's a compliment.

Ginger1982 · 10/02/2019 18:52

They won't have sent invites out yet.

ApolloandDaphne · 10/02/2019 19:42

It's far too early to have sent out invites for a July wedding.

SleepingStandingUp · 10/02/2019 19:55

My sister gets married May and sent hers out a few weeks ago. If I was the couple I'd have sent them out early as you need to book flights and hotels but I wouldn't assume you've been bumped off.

Can DH say to his friend "I know invites haven't gone out yet but Wood is stressing about flights. Can you give us any info?"

caffeinebuzz · 10/02/2019 20:04

It's a bit early for invites, but not too early to get in touch with the couple saying you would Iike to get flights / hotel booked.

notahiker · 10/02/2019 20:40

As your DH wasn't keen on going has he received it and binned it ?

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