Fall out with mum due to her controlling behaviour

[EJF16]

Hello
This is a sensitive subject for me but I need advice or just to help shed some light on this crap situation , as an only child I’ve always been very close to my mum her and my dad split when I was 2 but remained friends .. I have felt like from a very young age I need to keep mum happy it’s like it was built into me she’s complete opposite to me she’s fiery , confident and has word vomit but I’m laid back , caring - more sensitive .. we’ve had a big fall out I’ve not seen her for 6 weeks due to her pushing me over the edge with her views - she has a problem with my bf and his family ( she has had issues with previous but nothing like this) my life is taking a different turn to hers I want a family normal life she’s always told me what to do and what’s right from wrong - but I’ve hit an emotional wall I feel so drained and worn out from her emotional abuse I had to take a break - my relationship to my bf is struggling due to this- I have always given her lots of attention, nice things nice gestures but nothing is enough I can’t deal with it does anyone else have this issue or know anyone ? I was living with her but obviously had to leave I couldn’t take anymore ....

You won't change her now. She's probably feeling threatened. Someone else has got influence over you and she's losing control.

You can't change her behaviour. All you can do is change how you deal with it. As Single said, she's not going to change now.
It's easier said than done but it's possible to detach from her without a massive fallout. Google grey rock and have a look at the stately homes thread on here

Yes I do think she feels threatened which is horrible but I’m 28 and I feel like I need to start my own life , I literally have to do as she wants or she kicks up a fuss but as I’ve taken myself out of the situation now for breathing space - I can’t have this in my future but I also can’t lose her!! Thank you both and I will check that out xx

Have a read of Grey Rock.