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Male teacher alone in house with DD

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Plantor · 10/02/2019 02:14

DD(15) has a flute lesson with a male teacher who comes to our house. He is an teacher at a local school, son of a work colleague.

Usually I m home but occasionally I have to go out for unavoidable reasons e.g. to collect other DC from school etc.

Is this ok? Teacher seems a bit uncomfortable about it but surely this happens often in one to one private tuition situations.

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Unicornfeathers · 10/02/2019 02:22

My son has teachers come in from school to educate him and they have requested that I am here whilst they tutor. They said it was their safeguarding policy - the teachers gender is irrelevant.

If he’s uncomfortable then it’s not fair to put him in that position.... if nothing else he will drop teaching your DD

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Plantor · 10/02/2019 02:41

Yes I realise that which I want to avoid. And obvs don't want him to feel uncomfortable.

However when thinking about it I don't really understand what is the difference between this situation and say, DD going to a private music teacher's house for lessons.

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BBInGinDrinking · 10/02/2019 02:41

Have you posted before, OP?

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Plantor · 10/02/2019 02:45

Yes have posted before but name change often. This is a genuine question. Not some freaky trolling thread

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Obloodyhell · 10/02/2019 02:47

It’s a safeguarding thing for the teacher in case a child makes an accusation.

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Plantor · 10/02/2019 02:55

I realise that but what I don't understand is how this is different from the reverse situation of going to a music teacher's house. Which seems a pretty common arrangement around here.

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Obloodyhell · 10/02/2019 02:57

Because the teachers all have CCTV in their music rooms.

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Plantor · 10/02/2019 03:10

Really? Surely if they did that they'd have to get the parents consent. That's never happened to me with my other DD when she did piano lessons

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Tinkety · 10/02/2019 04:04

Well maybe there are other (unseen) people at the music teacher’s house? My DP gives music lessons at home & he always makes sure that someone else is around - usually it’s me working in the home office & keeping out of the way - so he’s never actually alone in the house with a student although it may look that way.

Anyway regardless of what other teachers do, this one obviously chooses to go to his students rather than have them come to him & would like a chaperone to be present. Maybe he’s run into problems in the past so is just over cautious now?

Justagirlwholovesaboy · 10/02/2019 04:09

If I was a teacher I would want assurances I wouldnt be accused of something, the best way to do so would be to be supervised. There’s a lot of accusations and most are true, but one wrong one could kill a career for a teacher, better safe than sorry

kateandme · 10/02/2019 04:20

if this is the tutor you have chosen and this is his wishes then you have to follow that.
lots of teachers now have to be so over careful.

drspouse · 10/02/2019 04:49

How is this different to a babysitter?

sashh · 10/02/2019 06:26

As a teacher I would not do this, the teacher is leaving himself wide open to accusations.

I totally get why he is uncomfortable.

Prusik · 10/02/2019 06:31

Agreed, you shouldn't be leaving them alone. It's really unfair on the tutor. I'm a tutor and wouldn't be happy with this

claraschu · 10/02/2019 06:33

This happens with music teachers all the time. I have students come to my house and some parents wait, and some go off for a bit. I certainly don't have CCTV.

claraschu · 10/02/2019 06:34

I am often alone in the house with a student.

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Plantor · 10/02/2019 08:35

Drspouse I also thought that. Plus nannies, childminders etc.

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Plantor · 10/02/2019 08:40

Of course I don't want to make our tutor uncomfortable so will make suitable arrangements. I was just wondering what happens in other situations.

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TeenTimesTwo · 10/02/2019 09:54

We have a tutor who comes to our house.
I always make sure that DH or I are present. I view it as safeguarding protection for both parties really.

SerendipityReally · 10/02/2019 10:45

My children go to music lessons at teachers' houses. With 2 of the teachers I've always stayed. I have no idea if they insist on that, encourage it or just put up with it, but children who go to music teachers' houses are not always alone there. When we cross over with other pupils at the start and end of lessons, their parents are staying too.

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