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I have been mothering for far too long

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ACoverIsNotTheBook · 09/02/2019 19:07

Today dd turned 17, ds is 11 and ds2 is 3, I have at least another 15 years of parenthood ahead... whyyyyyy did I decide to have my children spaced so far apart! If I’d have had them even 2 years apart I would’ve been the mother of 3 dcs all in double digits and the worries of school runs and fussy eating would be over 😂 anyone else in the same boat? I’m absolutely knackered recently and definitely feel too old for this shiz 😂

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Beamur · 09/02/2019 19:11
Grin DH did this. First 2 kids close together. Got divorced. Met me. 12 & 13 yr gap between.SC's and DD.
lljkk · 09/02/2019 19:17

a little bit similar. Youngest is in yr6. That will be 15 yrs of going up to primary school (most days, tbf, youngest takes himself there & back most days last 18m). I am going to pass around a box of Celebrations on my son's last day. And dance a jig. Or 6. My grandmothers had 18-21 yrs from oldest to youngest, though.

Aprilshowersarecomingsoon · 09/02/2019 19:19

Same op. Oldest is 29,youngest is 4!!
Dgs is 3!!
Life is hard to keep up with of late!!

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Disfordarkchocolate · 09/02/2019 19:22

By the time my youngest is 18, I will have been at the parenting lark for 32 years. Luckily the last one is so lovely otherwise I would be well fed up by now. I can't wait to plan a holiday in term time again!

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ACoverIsNotTheBook · 09/02/2019 19:25

😂 nice to hear from people in the same boat, also that’s it’s normal to feel exhausted by it every now and again! These days my idea of bliss is a day by myself in the house with a book 🙈
Dad is great and tbf is like having another adult in the house when it comes to helping out, but even that comes with it’s own set of parenting problems, I go from teenager tantrums to threenager tantrums on the daily 😂

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SweetAndSourPrawnBalls · 09/02/2019 19:25

Same here, eldest 30, youngest 9! I must need my head testing!

ContessaIsOnADietDammit · 09/02/2019 19:26

Mine are 7 and 6, so I look upon you all with a mixture of admiration and horror Grin

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ACoverIsNotTheBook · 09/02/2019 19:27

And yes the school runs! The never ending school runs! And settling in periods at nursery meaning by the time you leave them there and get home it’s time to go back again, all the worst bits of parenthood 🙈
there’s some nice parts of course, dd is old enough to babysit which is a massive perk 😂

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ACoverIsNotTheBook · 09/02/2019 19:30

Sweetandsour and April, I take my hat off to you, and send lots of 🍷🍸🍹😂

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Disfordarkchocolate · 09/02/2019 19:30

I found that I was much less stressed by baby No 4 though, by then you have 4 lots of advice on what to eat when you're pregnant and how and when to wean and you feel fairly competent to pick out what works for you. So far the teen years have been better with this last one, I know now how useful humour and love are.

spellingtest · 09/02/2019 19:31

I have a fully financially independent 23 year old and 12 year old twins in private education. The only way I can manage is by being extremely strict and counting down that I only have five years and one term left of fees. They still love me to bits and prefer to have rules. I feel they keep me young apart from from when I'm in knackered menopause mode.

FairyMoppings · 09/02/2019 19:32

My mum did this and it caused no end of issues for us all

Me first
3 yrs later DSIS
6 yrs later DB
7 yrs later DSIS

I was kicked out at 17 as being a teen I was considered a "bad influence" on the younger two simply because I had a job and TRIED to have a social life

My next sis was also then kucked out at 16 for the same reason (neither of us were delinquent tearaways, just wanted to do normal teen stuff)

The younger two still remain living with her despite being mid/late twenties, because "they're her babies" and "need" her.

It's hard not to feel resentful that although the younger two are now adults they're still the mothered babies getting their arses wiped for them.

As a result I have only one child. And that's all I'm ever going to have.

ParkheadParadise · 09/02/2019 19:34

23years between my Dd's.
I'm going to spend most of my life doing the school run 😂😂.

flapjackfairy · 09/02/2019 19:35

My eldest is 29 and youngest is 4. I love it. I never want an empty nest

Aprilshowersarecomingsoon · 09/02/2019 20:03

*meant to mention 9 dc in between the afore mentioned dc.
Currently sloped off for a bath and some P&Q!!

RageAgainstTheVendingMachine · 09/02/2019 20:15

Same Boat.
I channel Danny Glover every single frigging day.
Here lovey, have some cake Cake

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ACoverIsNotTheBook · 09/02/2019 20:24

Fairymoppings sorry to hear about your experiences, I am the eldest of 7 so understand a little Flowers

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Dolly49 · 09/02/2019 20:28

Aww I’ve got a nearly 18 year old daughter and a 2 month old son and I’m absolutely loving it!!!!! 🥰🥰🥰🥰

jobbymcginty · 09/02/2019 20:37

My ds turned 2 today and my other ds will be 13 year. I love my boys so much and had a very heard time getting pregnant with ds 2. Plus I'm coming up to mid 40's I'm always knackered

sasparilla1 · 09/02/2019 20:44

I'm in a similar boat. Mine are 29, nearly 28, 12 and 7. I have 8 grandchildren (including 3 step, but we don't differentiate), two are older than my youngest....

It's exhausting but fun. I work full time in a stressful role, have elderly and infirm parents and feel very stretched.

KrazyKatlady · 09/02/2019 20:46

my DD is 12 and we have never got out of the fussy eating stage....Confused

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