Our beautiful DD has congenital problems. We're lucky that they aren't affecting her at all at the moment but she might need several operations in the future (or, hopefully she may not need any if she keeps doing as well as she is!) and lots of monitoring, sometimes invasive.
She's perfect and of course I would never let her know when she's older that we're worried about her (she's still a baby now). I know it will all be fine and she'll have a healthy life with hopefully minimal impact so I need to accept it so she can too.
But although they aren't sure why it happens, they think it can be due to a lack of oxygen in early pregnancy. I was really careful - obviously no drinking, avoided certain foods as advised in pregnancy, no exposure to obvious chemicals etc although I suppose I lived a fairly normal life and still used normal cleaning products, antiperspirant etc
How can I let go of the guilt? I keep thinking back to those early weeks and wondering was it this or that, even though I was careful