Random attraction to colleague after years of nothing, madness, boredom, picking up signals?

[Justheretogiveaviewfrommyworld]

Hi,

I posted in relationships a few weeks ago and not much traffic, so I thought I'd try here. I've been a single mum for 20+ years. Never had a relationship in that time, a few flirtations but that's it.

Anyway, there's this guy at work, I've known him for a while in a purely professional way, worked on things together and felt nothing except what a nice helpful colleague. However, we had a meeting the other day and it was like BANG he's gorgeous and I must have him now. I have had really detailed dreams of us together. Not all sexual either. He's single btw. So wise Mumsnet, do we think it's boredom, (recently finished a big community project) hormones or real? If it's real, what should I do next/look out for?

It's really bugging me. We're friendly and chatty/relaxed around each other, I am with most people tbh, but never had these feelings for anyone else at work. If it is indeed madness or boredom or hormones any advice on how to get rid would be warmly received!

I’ve had exactly this, someone I knew and never particularly had any thoughts on, in fact disliked him for a bit at one point! And then one day boom! Realised I really fancied him. Didn’t do anything about it.

I would give it a couple of weeks and see how you feel? If nothing else it’s a nice diversion to think about!

I've had this, thankfully not acted on it and then looked back and wondered what the hell I was thinking. I've also had a relationship at work though. I wouldn't rush into anything.

Are you ovulating? The (famous) men I've had dreams about mid month baffle me. Thanks hormones. 🙄

So yeah, give it a week or two and reassess. If you still get the fanny gallops then go for a group work drink and get chatting to him there. You can move on to asking him for a drink/coffee on his own after that.

Thanks Buster, glad I'm not the only one!

Umm yeah, I'd worked for him for 10 years nada.
Then we were both single, spending more time together and BOOM.
I married him.

I could be Enid, yep. Doyou, was it a good experience for you, dating a colleague?

Ok, Chasing that mixes the responses up a bit!