Two year old is becoming more attached to my mum

[Summeriscomin]

Than me. She asks for my mum whenever I’m with her. Wakes up during the night shouting for her.

I work full time and my mum has her 3 days a week. She loves it and loves her but it really stings to hear her so close to my mum.

When I’m in work I feel like I’m achieving something, I feel fulfilled and like I’m progressing. But I also feel like a bloody shit mum when I get home and it’s all go go go with cooking dinner and bath and bedtime.

It’s a constant juggling act and bloody hard.

Op I hear you . My 2 yr old is very much wanting her daddy these days and if not him then her granny. I fall pretty far down the list. I work full time too so completely understand how you feel. I arrange the activities . I do all the cooking cleaning playing and its not me she looks for. To be fair the first year all she wanted was me so I suppose its somebody elses turn.

It's common and passes. I was a nanny for two little boys over four years and both did this at age 2ish - began crying for me, wanting me, etc. It broke their mum's heart but it passed after a few months. Try not to take it personally. They usually want who's not there (she may be crying for you at grandma's, the boys wanted their mum when she wasn't there).

@Summeriscomin It is most likely a phase, don't fret about it- of course she loves and needs you more than anything, you're her mother.

You're working hard to give her a good life and she'll appreciate it in the future. I'm sure 2 year olds get attached to anything like crazy at that age then drop it a few weeks later.
(It'll probably be a unicorn next week)

Regarding the waking up- is she having nightmares? Maybe she watched something/read a scary book at your mums? Hence why she's confused and calling your mums name?