Does PMS affect your relationships with your partner or people around you?

[Chocolatecheeks111]

I'm approximately 7 days away from getting my period and every month I notice how it affects my relationship with my dh. (Poor him!) We get so much more snappy with each other and I just generally feel a lot more tired, lethargic and short tempered. It makes me not want to do much other than stay at home which isn't usually like me! Work can also be a struggle as my job is public facing and all I want to do is sleep and hide away!

I also find myself doubting the relationship which I find totally bizarre because outside of this pre period window I am literally so smitten and feel so so lucky to have found him! He is honestly the most loving, kindest person I have ever met and I do love him deeply. I'm not sure whether this is normal?

It just got me thinking and wondered how it affects others?

Totally I had a difficult negotiation and I actually came off the phone and cried!!

My DH was very sympathetic but he said (and it wasn't to make excuses) but that I was due on (I'm due on Monday) and perhaps that's affecting how I feel.

I felt like handing my notice in!

Yes. I'd have an absolute massive argument. Usually with me being irrational and saying I wanted a divorce. Then he would go "is your period due or something". I'd stomp off yelling telling him not to be so patronising.

Then I'd check my calender and realise he was right.

I've been taking evening primrose oil and agnus castus the last few months. And it's really helped. I even got caught out by surprise last month with my period arriving without the advance warning of the shitty argument.

Yes, definitely. I saw one GP who said that PMS wasn’t a thing and it was all psychological That can’t be true because my periods are erratic and I can go days or months between them so I never know it’s coming. I left it but it was really affecting my parenting and after I smacked my DD one day I took myself straight to another GP who prescribed me a low dose of anti-depressants. I’ve been taking them for ~4 years now and they really help to even out my mood. I had a review last year and the GP reduced my dose but I asked to increase it again after a few months because the PMS was just unbearable.

No because PMS doesn't exist.

I have horrible pms. I have wicked mood swings, rages, and cry over stupid shit. I'm an asshole, basically, and I am mad at the whole world, and certain that the whole world hates me too.

I always crave dairy, especially grilled cheese, cheese burgers, poutine, etc

I came home to find DH looking at sling shots on Amazon. I asked what a grown ass man needs that for. He replied that he could hide behind the door and fire cheeseburgers at me until I stopped being angry.
He didn't actually buy it, and I think he was joking.
Sidenote, I've recently started therapy.
Not even joking

Oh thank goodness it isn't just me. I try to be fully aware of my emotions (also with the help of an app!) And i usually warn dh but sometimes I just feel like he (understandably) just doesn't get it and it drives me mad! I said to him I wish he could go through it just for one month to understand what we have to get through every single month.

I think I just have mentally punched him last month when he called me sensitive 🤣

I actually purchased primrose oil but I got out of the routine of taking it... thank you for the reminder I need to go back to it!

I find it crazy how much hormones can really trigger a range of horrible emotions!

I was speaking to a lady at work and she said that her pms was the worst in her mid to late 20s (I am 28) so I am hoping that it will get better in time but I think that's just me being too optimistic!

Yes.

To my ever lasting horror, I'm pretty convinced that I owe my first managerial level promotion to PMS. I was horribly irritable and this one pretty senior colleague caused me to snap. Senior partner witnessed the whole thing and somehow walked out convinced that I was assertive and a go-getter and someone who belongs in management.

In my defense: I honestly believe I earned all my other promotions prior to and after this one fairly and squarely and due to entirely non-hormonal factors.

I had it really badly when I was on the Microgynon pill. I do get it occasionally but on that I was a monster. Made me mental.

Oh I am also on low dose anti depressants as my anxiety was getting unbearable which also seemed to coincide with the week before my period. It has helped but my agitation, tiredness etc is still very much there! Me and dh have been grumpy today (my moods have an impact on his woops!)

I also get so restless at night lots of tossing and turning which probably doesn't help my moods

Try taking magnesium, vitamin B6, evening primrose and Starflower oil-1 tablet of each a day. It doesn't take those feelings away completely but it helps a lot xx

Thank you for the recommendations I will definately try them!

I'm having another grumps day today.... me and dh had a miniature fall out because I was annoyed at him for not showing enough sympathy when I told him my sister had been sick this morning.. thankfully we kissed and made up pretty quickly! 🤣