Tossing and turning DH - a rant

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DH is very stressed at work and has a cough. He woke me at 4.30 this morning coughing and tossing and turning. I maintain he has no thought for me trying to sleep so doesn't try and lie still or stop sighing (or coughing - but I know that is harder).

I find it really hard to get back to sleep once I am awake. So at 5.30 I gave up and went and cleaned the kitchen and faffed about. Got back into bed about 6.30 but could not sleep again and got up for work at 7.30.

I'm totally wrecked all the time. I try and go to bed early-ish but still find it hard to get to sleep. It's taking longer and longer for me to drop off. Plus DS2 has SN and gets up early or sometimes gets up in the night and has to be put to bed. DH - once he is asleep - sleeps soundly.

I'm so tired!!!!!!

Do you have a spare room one of you could move to temporarily?
Could he sleep propped up on pillows? This helps me a bit when I have a bad cough, I'm asthmatic & cough dreadfully at night - I slept on the sofa last night to give DH a decent night's sleep.

Sympathy to you - both - it's exhausting having a persistent cough. And having to listen to it at night!

No, we've just swapped the spare room into a room for DS1! I could get in with him or DS2 if I was desperate. It was so frustrating to lie there trying to sleep and then realise I had been awake for an hour!!!

In that case he needs to try sleeping propped up. Not just an extra pillow, but with his whole upper body at an angle of at least 45°. I slept last night sitting nearly upright. Not very restful, but it's better than constantly coughing.

If that doesn't work, one of you should decamp to another room. I usually do when my asthma plays up, as I'm smaller & can manage better on the sofa, & it accommodates my need to sleep upright.

I'm someone who tosses and turns and it's torture to lie still. I feel horrible. Luckily DH could sleep on a clothesline but it drives everyone who's ever slept with me mad. Sorry!