People over investing in your pregnancy

[PaulHollywoodsSexGut]

Is this a thing?

Woman at my work who is generally lovely and has two little ones herself is perpetually passing “jokey” comments about baby brain, non boobs and whether my bump is “big” or “little” that day inc “where’s your bump gone?”; a real treat to hear the day before the 20w scan.

Anyway, she also asks really in depth questions too, which I can see could on paper be kind interest but the random nature of their delivery is so weird; we can be discussing financial forecasting for FY19/20 and then BAM! “Are you feeling the baby move? Because it’s ok if you’re not as i know you’re only 23 weeks”.

Anyway, it’s just started to get to me a bit and im not going to tell her to piss/fuck off as she’s fundamentally decent (rare where I work) but man it’s annoying especially as I’m trying not to draw attention to being pregnant until I get my pay rise signed off this week and hit them with a MAT B1 next week.

Maybe just say that you find pregnancy quite a private thing, and you really don't feel comfortable discussing it. I remember feeling very similar. With a big smile, so she can't take offence.

I have a colleague at work who insists on commenting on my size in a similar way. I am 20 weeks, its my second child and i am quite big already. She is constantly mentioning it, saying it to other people and generally being a bit weird. Talking about who ate all the pies etc.

Just ignore or as PP said just say you dont want to talk about it!

My big boss has a weird obsession with the size of my bump. In a similar way we’ll be mid discussion on a project deadline and she’ll look at me and say “wow, you’re MASSIVE” or “had a big lunch Anne?!”. I’m not actually that massive and she always says it in a way that sounds nice enough but way to make a woman feel self conscious when she’s trying to get on with her sodding work and it’s happening a few times a week. I smile and say thanks, not sure what else to do really.

Whataj said. I know what you mean, though. I spent my pregnancy finishing a big project that needed to be concluded before I went on maternity leave, and DH and I had a temporarily complicated international living situation which involved a lot of flying, and life was really busy. In fact, I simply didn't pay a great deal of conscious attention to my pregnancy a lot of time, especially on work mode, and I was baffled by some colleagues who didn't seem to get that my life was going on as usual, I was just pregnant too, rather than pregnancy taking up my every waking thought.

I had to be quite crisp in the end.

It’s so odd, I mean this is my third child, it’s not like I’m some kind of super excited FTM and talking about it loads.

Sounds like I’m in not too dissimilar a position to the one you were in @Parthenope except with less travel and more domestic nonsense. I also get very anxious in pregnancy so almost “working to forget” is a big help.

I just don’t get it. She’s even taking to texting about it now and passing comments on whether my coffee is caffeinated or not

(Should have been )

Maybe she's jealous or feeling nostalgic about her own pregnancies. But yes, it sounds annoying, especially the body comments.

I did wonder if it was a nostalgia thing - and it may very week be - it’s just getting so annoying I’m starting to plan my working day now around ways to avoid her: tough when we basically sit beside each other and work on the same project.