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Soft play etiquette?

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LordPickle · 06/02/2019 11:34

I took DS to a small soft play today that only has 4 tables in the actual soft play area. There are more tables just outside the door that parents will sit at when the other tables are full.

When we arrived, I got the last free table. There was a younger woman who was in the soft play with her children and she had quite a bit of stuff on her table (coats, shoes, baby bag etc) and a pushchair for her baby next to the table.

Quite a few kids came in and their parents sat outside at the other tables. Then 2 women came in with a tray of food and coffees and they went straight to the young woman's table and moved all of her stuff into a chair and into her pushchair. I assumed they knew her until one turned around and asked me how many people were sitting there. I said I wasn't sure and pointed out the woman whose table it was. They didn't even look at her and just sat down and spread their food and drinks out.

A few minutes later the woman came back to her table and she stopped and stared at them for a minute then walked up to her table and just kinda looked at them and looked at all her stuff that had been piled into the chair and pushchair. The women looked at her and one said "we needed somewhere to sit" and gave her this shitty smile...almost like she was bemused? Then the women just kept talking like nothing had happened.

I was gobsmacked! Am I crazy or were those women awful? They didn't even apologise or have the decency to look embarrassed. They acted like they had done nothing wrong. It seemed so rude and entitled.

Am I missing something? Is there some unspoken rule that you can steal peoples tables if they aren't sitting there when you walk in?

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Dothehappydance · 06/02/2019 12:26

If there are only 4 tables then unless you are actually sat at it, then you have no need for it and it is rude to simply reserve it.

The ones that sat down were no more wrong than the other woman. If you don't need the table leave it for someone else to use.

LordPickle · 06/02/2019 12:36

But she did the need the table...she was only in the soft play for a few minutes to help her kids down the slide a couple of times. All of us parents were up and down from our tables.

I guess it's just me. I would never have used a table that someone was clearly using, even if they weren't sitting glued to the chair. If anything I would have asked the woman if she minded me sitting there.

I suppose it's every person for themselves at softplay with no common courtesy.

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Dothehappydance · 06/02/2019 15:32

Sorry from your op it read that she had just dumped everything and walked off. They should have asked/apologised but maybe if there is only 4 tables sharing should be the norm.

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Bigonesmallone3 · 06/02/2019 15:35

That's so out of order, I would definitely pipe up if someone moved my things and would of looked on in disbelief to witness it!
They sound awful

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