I’m no one’s priority

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Anyone else feel the same

More often that I'd care to admit. Just keep reminding myself that I am my own priority.

Has something happened today to make you feel this way?

Thanks for the reply. Not really - I’ve always considered myself to have a good amount of friends but I’m single and live on my own, and it just struck me that it’s shit! No one asks or cares about my day. My friends have other halves. My family have other halves. I have a good social life but I miss silly small talk rather tahn catch up small talk

A few friends have started taking ages to reply to messages while I know for a fact they text other halves every day. Actually my best friend is in a new relationship and she messages her boyfriend daily but takes days to respond to me. It hurts

Bump

Loneliness is really hard, a huge number of people suffer in silence. I'm no ones priority either even though I have a dh and dc - in fact probably because I have them! Dc are our priority. Are you close to your parents? Maybe branch out to meet some new single friends? Your dbf is probably in that new relationship phase when the best of people can be a bit twatty and absorbed in their bubble.

Totally. I know my kids love me, but their needs are (quite rightly) higher priority. DH and my parents are caught up in their own troubles(which aren’t insignificant so again quite justified). I feel a bit bratty saying me too, but also a bit sad

I was married and I was not his priority then either, always at the bottom of the heap and I had to push for him to make the children one of his considerations.

Yup, I know - it can be hard.
I am priority for DD though, if no-one else so she keeps me going.
It's hard though x

Yes, my DCs are all grown, friends drifted away, haven't had a DP for many years...I sometimes think if I died no one would notice for weeks except my bosses would grumble if I didn't call in sick.

OP.

I was thinking the other day no matter how much you fill your life with friends etc, it’s really only your DParents who will prioritise you. I appreciate some people don’t even have that. Really demoralising to think about.