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MIL has a totally opposite fashion sense to me

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AK91CH · 05/02/2019 07:33

So the MIL keeps buying my almost 1 year old clothes and I have never liked them.l they are always the complete opposite to what I would buy and as mean as this sounds I've looked at some things and wondered if anyone would put their child in it. I often think that she must have realised by now that he doesn't wear these clothes. Is there a way I can tell her this without hurting her feelings? Bare in mind that my husband has never told her he has always disliked and not worn the clothes she has bought him 🙈 its an awkward one because I don't want her to waste her money but don't want to cause any upset. So do I just carry on saying thank you and not saying anything? Or tell her?

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NerrSnerr · 05/02/2019 12:28

I'd just use the clothes. I'd rather save the money for when they're older and clothes get really expensive.

TeaAddict235 · 05/02/2019 15:53

Could you post some pictures OP?

Gina2012 · 05/02/2019 17:03

What can be wrong with clothes for a ONE year old? 😳

CountFosco · 05/02/2019 17:10

I just didn't use the synthetic, gendered, sloganed clothes we were given. We had hand me downs and so many presents we weren't short of clothes (by the time DD2 was 2 we had over 30 dresses for 1-2 year olds!) so I just put them in the clothes I liked.

fermezzlabouche · 05/02/2019 17:54

My son is almost one and I'm very fussy with his clothes, but I've always made the effort to put him in gifts when visiting the buyer as grandparents love this and then send to charity. I think we should be glad our children have grandparents that love them and want to buy them things however tacky we may find them.

I've tried to direct to next as not much bad can come from there. This has worked for my Nan but not aunties who insist on buying the most twee of those short dungaree things!

LoniceraJaponica · 05/02/2019 18:28

I was never fussy about what DD wore as a baby, as long as it was practical. Babies aren't fashion accessories

FenellaMaxwell · 05/02/2019 20:23

@Gina2012

MIL has a totally opposite fashion sense to me

TeaAddict235 · 07/02/2019 14:14

@Gina2012 that is something that should be written about in a sharply worded letter to the manufacturers and distributors, not the grandma in question. But yes you are right, that is disgusting.

OffToBedhampton · 08/02/2019 14:14

This will just continue, it's not like it's the odd awful outfit for a birthday from people you barely see (and can recycle!).
You need to find a subtle way of diverting MIL.

I'd go direct as I had to with my own DM (after mine hit toddler years) "Thanks that's so sweet. But can you leave receipts as none of them fit/ not comfy ... How about we look round shops together so you're not spending on things s/he won't wear? "

I had to pretend to naninlaw as if they were going to be worn as she knitted cardigans and wool all-in-ones that took her weeks. Ones that baby couldn't get their hands through/ too small/ hand wash only and totally impractical/itchy/overheated baby .... we had a draw for the 'never worn home made items'. And emptied it every now and then.

OffToBedhampton · 08/02/2019 14:21

*drawer not draw ... 😂

Honesty is best policy though OP as otherwise you'll still be expected by MIL to be dressing DS in Lord Esquith outfits, or in Donald Duck jumpers, when he's seven.

steppemum · 08/02/2019 14:24

well, I was given quite afew hoodies for ds.
he had no neck and the hoodies were so uncomfortable.

Severla of them came with tracksuit bottoms, which were too baggy and fell off.

I blamed ds - he is so skinny, and no neck, he can't wear hoodies or trousers! Dungarees are great though.
Same for dd and dresses - Oh she can't crawl in them - leggins are great though.

Also, if you know where they are from, just take it back and exchange it, most shops are very happy to exchange baby clothes, even without a receipt. Then show her the exchanged items - Oh that xxx didn't fit, so I exchanged it, look at this great whatever that I got in exchange.

explodingkitten · 08/02/2019 14:26

It's nice that she wants to buy something for the baby. Can you direct her to something more lasting? Like a certain series of childrens books? Let her collect them? It's such a shame that they grow out of clothes so quickly and that way its more of a present for the child. Plus that she can write something on tge first page for your DC.

mrsoutnumbered · 11/02/2019 14:01

Not my mil but her friends do this - Disney and tatty teddy shudder

If they have tags they're exchanged otherwise they get worn once for a photo and then go to charity!

It is thoughtful of them and I appreciate that they have taken the time to shop for my children. But......

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