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Mental health ruining my relationship?

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JHBurkett · 04/02/2019 19:53

Please don’t judge but I was in a short term bad relationship and cheated on him with an amazing man (me and ex partner are completely cool and he is happy)

Me and my dp now fell desperately in love, said I love you within 2 weeks and spend every second together. He went away on a stag do and I missed him so much.

He said I was perfect but now he’s pulling away after 2 months and I feel my mental health caused it Sad

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JHBurkett · 04/02/2019 19:53

Anyone with mental health have a good successful relationship?

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Jupiter13 · 04/02/2019 19:54

Were you too clingy?

Bombardier25966 · 04/02/2019 19:57

It sounds extremely intense. Do you usually fall in "love" so quickly?

Do you have a mental health condition? How do you think your mental health is affecting your relationship?

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JHBurkett · 04/02/2019 19:57

We were both clingy. He always says I’m perfect and he said he loves me first.

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JHBurkett · 04/02/2019 19:59

I get bad anxiety and depression, I don’t feel I’m doing anything wrong and he’s always supported me and told me how perfect I am and that he loves me .... but it’s not feeling like it used to so I assumed it was my mental health

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Bombardier25966 · 04/02/2019 20:03

For the future, try not to jump in so quickly. It's always great the first few weeks but the reality is rarely as exciting.

It's not necessarily related to your mental health. People without mental health difficulties have short term relationships too.

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JHBurkett · 04/02/2019 20:10

For the future, try not to jump in so quickly. It's always great the first few weeks but the reality is rarely as exciting.

But there’s loads of women on here that say they said I love you on the second date, moved in after a week and have been married 15 years.

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JHBurkett · 04/02/2019 20:48

Anyone?

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QueenofallIsee · 04/02/2019 21:12

It’s much more likely that you are not as compatible as he thought, it was very very quick and he didn’t know you that well - mental health issues aside

Adversecamber22 · 04/02/2019 21:32

But those women and those men are totally different people. It’s the same with many anecdotes on here the good and the bad ones.

For instance I met my DH at work, some people could ask about a possible work romance but the entire way it developed was unique to us and us alone.

Anecdotes are nice to share to support and encourage but remember they are just that.

I would be deeply suspicious of anyone that describes anything as perfect.

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JHBurkett · 04/02/2019 21:43

But his friend said to him that it won’t be as perfect as he thinks and that every relationship has problems at some point. But my boyfriend defended that by saying that when 2 people are this compatible and in love then it will be perfect 24/7

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PatriciaHolm · 05/02/2019 08:31

in love then it will be perfect 24/7

Bollocks. Nothing's perfect 24/7, even the best of relationships.

Are you very young, Op? You sound it. Have you had many relationships? Your view of them sounds extremely unrealistic and OTT.

FickleFingers · 05/02/2019 09:30

OP I doubt it is your MH from what you have described. You've both moved far too quickly and possibly reality is hitting him now.
No matter how in love you think you are, nothing is perfect 24/7..... Do you think you will spend the rest of your lives together without so much as a cross word?
Romeo and Juliet thought they were perfect and look how that turned out....

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JHBurkett · 05/02/2019 16:24

I’m 22 and he’s 29.

I’ve never felt this way ever and he says the same

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