Distant family member wants to send monetary gift

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A distant family member that I have never met or perhaps once when I was a child (lives overseas) wants to send a cheque as a gift for new baby.

They've asked another family member to get us to check whether we will incur any fees so that they can include this in the amount (hence knowing about it beforehand, rather than the cheque just turning up in the post.)

Receiving money from someone we don't really know and in all likelihood may never meet makes me uncomfortable. The wedding cheque that they sent us a few years ago was a lot of money. How do I word the email reply? (The email is from other family member, who I have met, but who is also much closer to the person that wants to send the money.) Is it rude to say no need?! Or do I have to gracefully accept?

Perhaps they are wealthy enough to enjoy the thought of treating a family member albeit distant. Anyway you could start sending them an occasional e-mail or Christmas cards etc with baby updates?

“There really is no need but thank you so much, it is very kind of you... Will save for baby’s college fund or whatever.”

Gift horse
Mouth.
If there is genuine kindness being offered you would be wise to accept.
It's for your dc not you anyway!

Actually tried to name change for this.. bloody app. Oh well.

I agree with all of the above. I think that it is the knowing beforehand and being asked about fees that makes me feel a bit awkward. If it had just been sent then of course we would just send an effusive thank you in return.

Will reply along the lines of what you've said VWpurse and yes, it will be put in baby's savings account.