I need help but no one cares

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I'm here in tears and I just can't stop,

I am in immense physical pain that is chronic. Stabbing pains in my head and electric shock pains down my face. I have been unwell for years and it's got a whole lot worse these past few months.

My GP has referred me back to neurology and is adjusting my medication. I have severe long term depression and was a very high dose of venlafaxine. But this is contraindicated with a lot of nerve pain drugs so I need to try and come off it so I can have better pain meds. I have dropped one tablet a day and have introduced pregablin. Also stopped taking indometacin which is like a type of ibuprofen. So now I am in withdrawal and suffering, it's been 4 days and I'm so ill.

Thing is I am a lone parent and part of my issues stem from being so alone all the time anyway. My mum passed away. My dad was abusive. I have no help. My sisters all gave their own families. It had just nearly killed me to go to the shop and now I have to go do the school run.

Every day is a constant grind and I'm just so upset and mention to people how hard I'm finding it but no one seems to care. Until I collapse in a heap no one will help us.

I also have severe debt problems and housing issues. I am incredibly stressed. I'm just totally lost and don't know what to do. Probably all spelling mistakes here now and not making sense but needed to just type.
I feel like screaming up to the sky.

You poor thing, sounds as though you have got an awful lot on your plate do you have anybody in real life you can talk to? Have you talked to your GP about everything else (not just the physical pain)? they have access to other sources of support for you. How many DC do you have? have you talked to the school - they could also possibly refer you for help from other services.
I'm sure someone else will be able to help more than me, but I saw you hadn't had any responses and didn't want you to feel alone

I'm so sorry things are so hard, this all sounds really rough. Chronic pain is completely exhausting, you poor thing.

How many kids do you have, what age are they? I wonder if there are any women's support groups in your area? Maybe a cup of tea with some kind people might ease the distress and loneliness a bit

Thank you both for the kind replies. It's very much appreciated x

My DC are 12 and 9. Boy and a girl. I'd be lost without them, they're my only reason to keep going tbh.

I just feel so alone most of the time even though I know a lot of people and put on a happy face, I don't actually have any hands on help..everyone has got their own problems haven't they lol. I mainly just get on with it but these last few days have knocked me really down.

I'm just hoping things will get better. There's nothing worse than pain that others cannot see.

A lady I know holds a support group for fibromyalgia patients at our local church hall and I'm thinking I may go there. I'm not diagnosed with it and they are thinking I could have MS but it's still chronic pain all the same.

Thank god for mumsnet! I just had no where else to turn earlier and it was so such a relief to let it all out.

Thank you again.

You sound a bit brighter in your last message that group sounds like a good idea, and even if you don't have fibromyalgia then at least there's a supportive community there who would probably be able to give you other pointers.
It's shit when there are so many things pulling you in different directions. Try and take time for yourself - your mental health is just as important as your physical health so get help for that if you need to, just like you would for any other illness. And come back and talk if you need to!

I'm sorry OP, that sounds really tough

You said you know a lot of people but they all have stuff going on - have you ever tried talking to them about what's going on? I know it can feel daunting to talk about it to other people and you don't want to burden them when they might have their own problems, but you could also find that they want to support you.

If you don't mind my asking, whereabouts are you?

Sorry to hear that you are struggling. Constant pain is an awful thing to cope with.

How do you feel about an assessment with social services? They might be able to offer some practice support.

Have you seen anyone about your debts? CAP. Or step change. Or the CAB. Will be able to offer support.

Also have you put in a claim for PIP. Disability benefit.?

I know you think others have busy lives. But I am sure they would be happy to help if you asked them to do something specific. Like a school run. Or getting your shopping.

I am so sorry to hear about what you're going through.

I don't have health issues really but I'm also lone parent and feel so alone and like no one cares so I know what that's like.

I'm thinking of you xxx