Effort

[Erinaz]

Do you find relatives don't make any effort as its my daughters b/day and no one is visting even though they are 15mins away and could pop in after work . One even asked if she could leave the present with the neighbour in her lunch break . Well thats it im going to suit myself next time they invite me round for a occassion. On the pluss side i get a big slice of birthday cake.

How old is your DD and what relatives are we talking about? I think if you want people to make an effort you have to make it clear there is an actual 'thing' going on, like a tea party. People are busy, they want to go home after work and your DDs birthday won't be a big deal to many others.

Well i did text them before so they had notice my child is 9 but has ggd . I think it annoyed me because i few months ago i drove there dad to hospital for cancer treatments. As they were to busy working sorry but that shows the different standards. Even though this it has nothing to do with the birthday. Im sure they could spare 1/2 hour of there time. I could understand if coming from far away but they are near.

I don't know what the typical dynamic is for your family but I wouldn't presume to invite myself over in an evening, I'd wait for an invitation. Have you actually planned a get together that they have declined?

That wouldn't be a biggie for me.