Help me be civil to my micro-Manager when she phones me

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Child off sick, DH at work dinner until late, I have unavoidably had to call into work and take carers’ leave for my late shift tonight.
DS is not well enough: was was supposed to be going to after school club and then babysitter.
I have left a message for my manager with another manager, apologising etc, but I know she is going to ring me and question me along the lines of “do you think you can make the time up or take it as annual leave...”
Stop me from saying, “no I fucking so not. This is unavoidable and I do not want to spend a minute longer than necessary in your company with you eroding all good will between us, quibbling about the smallest thing and really pissing me off when I compare you to other managers, their staff and the lack of shit they get as a result of having sensible, non-controlling seniors?”

She’s pissed me off, she’s been petty, I am seriously fucked off with her over several issues that she dismisses.

You're taking emergency leave so your husband can go out for dinner?

Yes, high level work meeting, think uni vice chancellor, senior academics etc, so it is an important work meeting, just not in normal hours or normal setting.

Is this your first absence due to childcare issues?

Babysitting was covered for both of us to work, but DS is not well enough.

She sounds like someone I used to work with.
You have told them you won't be in. I wouldn't answer the phone.

I think I’ll have to answer, but I’ll steel myself and do the, “I left a message with Steven, didn’t you get it?” and repeat stuff back that she says.
Another supervisor has told me I need to have a private chat with her and managing my workload properly. I will, I’ll just have to make notes properly to take in so I can respond to her outpouring of words and arguments against doing the decent thing.

@Bombardier25966, I’m not having you micro managing me as well. I’m here for help to keep my shit together, not a critique.

At the moment, the people I serve in my job in the public sector are far more important to me than management stats. My attitude shows I am committed to our people who really need our help, but not to the manager so much at the moment who have really irritated the tits off me last week.
I am trying to find another job, surprisingly, not because of my line manager, who can be ok most of the time when I allow her stuff to wash over me, but because I want a position where I am given adequate resources to help the people who really need it properly.
I’m just pissed off and could have done without today happening.