Not even a card for my birthday from OH

[Missmoanalott]

Feel silly complaining but made me feel a bit crap! Not even a card this morning.
Said I could have a lie in and he would take DS to nursery I ended up getting DS ready as he took to long getting ready himself and made DS late for nursery.

What kind of treatment does everyone else get on their birthday? If any

Personally I consider a cardless birthday a success (think they're largely over-priced rubbish), and a present has to be useful and thoughtful or not bother.
Don't get the lie-in business, I'm far too much of a morning person, a moment after 7.30 and I start feeling ill if still in bed.
Don't really get the fuss about birthdays, birthdays are for kids, when you've had as many as me you'd rather not!

We never do cars in the morning as not everyone would be up when DH leaves so leave it and do it after dinner with a cake etc. Maybe he'll be doing that? X

Grrr *cards

Ariela not helpful. You obviously have a very different outlook than the OP, which is fine, but there's no need to make her feel juvenile for wanting to feel special in her birthday ffs!

OP I get it, you just need some love and care on a day that only comes around once a year. As parents we do so much for everyone else ( willingly but it's damn hard work) and it's lovely to be cared for on one day.
We make quite a deal of birthdays and Ariela a present just for me which is unnecessary/ impractical is a delight. My best friend had a husband who was an arse- no birthday/ Christmas presents ever as 'she can get herself what she wants whenever she wants ' not seeing that it had nothing to do with money/ opportunity but everything to do with him having her as a priority and getting her something he knew she'd love ( music she liked/ a scarf she'd admired or was her favourite colour etc). Thank God since summer he is now becoming an ex husband- after 20 years of seeing my lovely friend unappreciated in every way I am so glad that HE decided to leave. I don't want your relationship going the same way.

Happy Birthday from all of us. Hug your DC extra hard after nursery and get a little cake for you and him to enjoy later.

@wildbhoysmama Quite possibly OP's OH is my brother. Doesn't come naturally, birthday celebrations are not on the brain's calendar.

Ariela that may be your experience of birthdays but not all of us are so joyless.

Life is hard in some many ways and there are many challenges for most of us, so we like to embrace the chance to be nice to each other as often as we can. We also like dc to see us celebrate each others birthdays and not just theirs

I belong to the 4th February birthday club too, happy birthday everyone! Mine has been a bit underwhelming too (I'm feeling ill, card from DH limited to a scribbled drawing by our 2 year old that he put his name on). So I'm all up for a bit of virtual celebration!