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How do I get out of this situation?

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bold3in1 · 03/02/2019 21:08

How do I politely decline without being rude?

Some back story, I have worked with this colleague for a couple of nights, and we chat occasionally but just friendly chat. We had a work night ought the other week, and my 'best friend' at work sent me a message at 3am that she was sleeping with said colleague and he said I was attractive. I drunkenly replied, "Awh thanks! Tell him he is too".

I have been seeing a guy for the past 3 years.

Now I believe I have given him the wrong impression, but I am 90% that my friend/colleague would have told him that I had a boyfriend.

How do I respond to this?

"Work drinks sound great soon!"

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bold3in1 · 03/02/2019 21:09

Gosh forgot the vital part! The said guy from work messaged me asking if I'd like to go for a drink with him

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wowfudge · 03/02/2019 21:14

What do you mean by your work colleague was sleeping with him? Do mean having sex or crashing at his house or sharing a hotel room?

QOD · 03/02/2019 21:16

Just don’t answer. Is the friend a Male ?

GeorgieTheGorgeousGoat · 03/02/2019 21:19

Are you drunk now?

You aren’t very clear at telling a story.

Drum2018 · 03/02/2019 21:21

Just say no, and tell him it wouldn't be appropriate as you are in a long term relationship.

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bold3in1 · 03/02/2019 21:22

Gosh I know, that was an awful first post.

Basically a work colleague has asked me to go for a drink. I do not know if this is as a date or not. How do I say no without making it awkward, as he is senior to me.

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StealthPolarBear · 03/02/2019 21:24

Presumably he finds your friendore attractive

sackrifice · 03/02/2019 21:24

'Sorry if 'mate' gave you the wrong impression, I am in a long term relationship. There will be no drinks!'

TokyoSushi · 03/02/2019 21:24

What do you mean your friend was sleeping with him????

Just say 'thanks for the offer but I'll have to decline' that's it!

Joinourclub · 03/02/2019 21:27

Maybe “cool I’ll chat to ‘best friend’ and find a time we can all go out”

Aurora6875 · 03/02/2019 21:28

Why not reply something like sounds good, who’s going?

HollowTalk · 03/02/2019 21:32

Hang on a minute. Your friend was sleeping with a guy from work who told her he fancied you? And now he's asked you out?

StealthPolarBear · 03/02/2019 21:35

Msybr he wants both of them

wowfudge · 03/02/2019 21:44

That's why I asked the OP to clarify. Either the guy is working his way through them (urgh) or he's genuinely interested in the OP alone.

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