So my boyfriends dad is dying of cancer in a hospice. I have not yet met his parents and we have been together for 2 years, this is because in our culture our parents would prefer us to get married if they knew we were dating.
Anyways, the past month has been extremely difficult, his condition is deteriorating rapidly and he is at the end of his life. I have been going to meet up with my boyfriend and staying over at his place whenever he has needed Me and have constantly been going to see him when he's been upset as well check up on him every single day by texting/calling.
I am a nursing student and the place where I am doing my nursing placement on have been concerned about my absence, they have not given me a chance to explain why I have taken some days off and are giving me a bad report.
Now I was supposed to go see my boyfriends dad in the hospice this week on Thursday but my bf is saying on Monday, I cannot do this as I am supposed to be having a meeting on Monday at placement and asked if Tuesday would be okay so that I can arrange a day off and explain what's going on. He got angry at me and told me to leave it as he's worried about other family members coming to the hospice at the same time I'm there and finding out about us. I told him if anyone was to come I'd leave and would stay even if it was only for an hour. I feel guilty, but I don't want to put my career on the backseat and sacrifice all the handwork I have done. Is this selfish or am I being logical about this.