I’m looking for help please. I’ve got 1year old girls, one of which is incredibly clingy and will even scream if she’s left with dad now. She’s like a little baby monkey that likes to wrap herself around me all day which is gorgeous but incredibly problematic because (did I mention?) I have another daughter, who I’m sure needs me just as much but doesn’t get a look in. The girls have been around grandparents and my friends on a weekly basis because I’ve been really lucky and had a lot of support, so I figured that they wouldn’t mind being around other people. Clearly that hasn’t been the case.
It’s gotten to the point that, when we’re out at groups, I have to leave her screaming on the floor while hurriedly changing my other little one’s nappy because no matter how many helpful mum friends offer to hold her, she’ll scream until I get back.
It could be just a phase, I suppose, she’s teething but this has been going on since well before then and I’ve taken to using teething as an excuse for her break downs when we’re out. None of my other twin mums seem to have this problem and the look of pitty as I leave a frazzled mess after an hours play date, isn’t helping my anxieties.
Is there anything I should be doing? I’ve been around them every single minute of their lives so far. Should I have given them more space? How is this affecting my other little girl? I want to raise strong, independent girls but I’m concerned I’m doing this parenting thing all wrong!