Being assertive / not being taken advantage of tips

[Chilledout11]

After another few muggy (me) incidents - don't want to go into it all but feel used a lot. Try and be good. Do the right thing. At the moment feel used and exhausted.

Any advice ?

Put your front on. Don’t say ‘yes’ say ‘I’ll let you know’ or just ‘no, I can’t’. You can even pretend you are someone else for a bit. Either way, fake it til you make it. Good luck to you.

It's ok to say "no" to things. You don't have to apologise or give an excuse. It feels unnatural but it's normal. Trust other people to take care of their own problems.

Say I'll see if that works for me and I'll let you know.

I'm getting there slowly I think but my dm says I'm selfish if I mind my own stuff (work dc house etc)
If I'm nice to work (manager) I get taken advantage of. Dh takes things for granted. Nothing major.