Skills and qualities that you want your dc to develop before they reach adulthood

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My dd has recently participated in a number of activities that I wish I'd had the opportunity to do when I was younger. They would have done wonders for my confidence!

These reflections have got me thinking more about the other experiences that I'd like dd to have while she is young, and about the skills and qualities that I want her to develop as she approaches adulthood.

Some of the things I've thought about are as follows:

Self-confidence
Kindness and compassion - towards both herself and others
Resilience/learning to deal with failure/disappointment
A strong work ethic
Perseverance/determination
Time management and organisational skills
Proactive approach to life
Life skills such as cooking, cleaning, driving etc.

I'm interested to know what other people think is important, and also what, if anything helped you or your dc to develop those skills/qualities.

TIA

Kindness. Without being a doormat.

Learn where your boundaries are and stick by them.

Have the confidence to say no.

Stick up for others if they're being wronged.

Have the confidence to walk away, from eg a partner, it is better to be alone for the right reasons than in a relationship that isn't right for you.

It mostly comes down to confidence and by being (or being seen to be) a doormat.

He is 7yo and just learning to tie his shoelaces so we've got a while yet!

NOT being a format!

I failed 5 driving tests, watched my mother cook and helped but am still a shit cook and hate it.

Time management and managing your life - budgeting, saving money - are things that ds sees us doing and he saves his pocket money for things.

He already has a very healthy respect for animals and nature, recycles, saves 3-legged spiders etc

General adulting - the things I'm still finding out for myself:
e.g. looking after and organizing yourself (and others), keeping a home clean and tidy, looking after your things, self-limiting procrastination (esp internet), being on top of a family budget, insurance, savings etc.

The unwritten rules of social and work situations - and the wisdom to know when to "bend" them!

Ha! Yes to limiting procrastination, it's the bane of my life! DD is not too bad with regard to this at the moment, but not sure how to make sure she stays that way!

Good suggestion re budgeting/managing finances too. DD is very good at saving her pocket money at the moment but I think I need to increase it and stop buying stuff for her so that she has to manage it by herself.

YY to having the confidence to say no, to stick up for others and for what's right, and to walk away from something that isn't working.

Bumping in case anyone else has any thoughts.

Resilience- life can often be difficult. One needs to be able to deal with things in a pragmatic way