I've arranged a birthday meal with family in a couple of weeks mainly my dh family . I've asked my dm , I do not speak to my dad . My dm asked if I will ask both my dB I said no because they won't come . They both always decline invites make excuses so I've stopped bothering. My dm said I should ask them they will come so I said fine I will message them both . Anyway I did 1st dB said he was working so declined, 2nd dB replied with whose going ? . I was like well family and he wanted to list who was coming , and he asked if my dad was invited and I should invite him etc , I replied that he obviously didn't know what happened and that my dad had to apologise to me but too stubborn. Anyway no reply from that nothing and it's been a week . I mean I'm annoyed that I didn't want to invite either brother because knew then wouldn't come and my brother can't even be bothered to reply that he's coming etc . I did say I needed to know as was booking the table , I've since booked table not included him but I'm upset that again my family don't want to be involved in a family meal and that he can't even be bothered to give a excuse.
My dB never even sends a birthday message never mind a card to me or my dc and I've not seen him in 18 months . Just disappointing I suppose that I reluctantly I admit made the effort and ignored. I was tempted to message and reply ffs dB if you don't want to go say so but that's your last invite ever .
But really isn't it rude to not reply maybe even saying sorry sis can't make it . It's a shame as one time we were really close .