What do you do for fun, as a couple?

[PoppingBubbles]

I've been reading another thread, and it had me wondering.
I don't think DH and I have much fun really, we get on well, and laugh and joke around whilst doing it. However, spontaneous fun hasnt happened for many years, and we don't have any hobbies together. We both like gaming, mostly different stuff though, and not always.
He's not a planner either, so I do feel anything we do get out to do, is all on me.
I also feel like as we don't have the same interests, we don't have much to talk about.

This is not a thread for me to moan about our marriage, we're fine, I just wondered of we could do better.

I think I'm asking for inspiration, so how does it work for you as a couple, do you have lovely long chats, or hobbies, or whatever?

I see that I should have put more details in my OP. Its nice to see what others do too though. We have 3 children, one a teen, 1 in junior and 1 in infants.

DH and I like to press pause whilst watching telly and have a competition as to who is pulling the best impersonation of the paused face on the screen.

We don't have much spare cash so free entertainment is a must for us.

Play chess
Nice bottle of wine
Read the same book so we can talk about it
Go for a walk
Have friends over for dinner

We have a 2 year old and I'm pregnant. We do nothing, watch Netflix sat next to each other both on our phones. Usually one or the other of us works in evenings. Or he goes to the gym.

We have three children under 7 so mostly we crash on front of the TV.

However DH has recently got a Legacy version of Pandemic (the boardgame) so we play that a couple of times a month. It's good because it's a cooperative game and I'm very competitive. That takes the slightly negative aspect out of boardgames for us.

@IHeartKingThistle - love that-we need to do similar as I used to do that with a friend years ago. Like those suggestions!

We go to NT places & beaches, (we're in NI) but in winter we usually have dull weekends & do housework & relax in front of the fire.

We have 2 dc & go to festivals in summer & other camping.

We don't really have any shared interests. I like something planned & he never really organises anything!

DCs aged 5 and 7. We watch box sets and documentaries, listen to radio 4 together like any questions and discuss after, we get a babysitter relatively regularly and go out to friends' parties or out to dinner. We have a few dinner parties a month which is great as people come to us. He plays the piano and I sing. He reads to me while I cook or I read to him while he is cleaning the kitchen or ironing. We just talk, a lot, about everything. We do a lot together with the kids too but that's not family time not couple time!

Netflix and chill every Saturday night when the kids are at grandmas but gigs for a night out. Off to Manchester tomorrow to see Don Broco so that means a meal out first, loads of drinks and then back to the hotel.

We don't really get much time as a couple as we're raising a young family but we enjoy just being together at the end of the day, watching Netflix, eating together or having a drink. Every few months or so we'll go the cinema or out for a meal.

Go on Pinterest OP for date night ideas.
Can be done for next to nothing.

And don't worry, all couples go through stages where life takes over and everything becomes fact based and less fun based. Then one or both of you suggest starting fun things again.

Running, some cycling (trying to get him to come on a holiday with me), cooking together, meals out, cinema, dancing, art galleries, cocktails, climbing (we’ve found a lovely indoor place to hone our skills), travel, art galleries, walks in the park, wine/gin tasting, hosting dinner parties, hiking.

We have got into a rut since having my daughter . We have a young child, so am restricted. We used to go on date nights all the time and for nights away but I started to feel it was becoming a chore, arranging babysitters, dressing up, packing bags.

We really like going out for lunch, wandering around shops, we enjoy going to the gym together when we have a chance, we also like playing golf...we have certain tv programmes we look forward to together..deffo need to put more effort in.

We are lucky to get an hour or two together at the end of the day (2 young children who are both bad sleepers, no family or friends willing/able to babysit). So it's either "Netflix and chill" or Actual Netflix And Chill. We have a laugh day to day though and get on well, just miss having more time together.

Before

We can’t go out just as a couple together as we have a toddler but what we do isn’t massively different to before she arrived. Long walks together, meals out (earlier than they used to be!), visiting antique shops, museums and galleries etc, go away for weekends.

At home we tend to enjoy eating nice food that one of us has cooked, watch a series or film together. Have friends round for drinks or dinner.

The occasions we have a babysitter we have gone out to the cinema, for dinner, to a gig and to a nice hotel for the weekend!

Mostly eat and drink. I think sharing a nice meal and a bottle of wine is still my favourite way to spend time together, but even after 28 years.

Our "interests" are mostly seperaye, and we so we have things to cat h up on when we eat together but recently we've started doing long bikerides (and a pub lunch!) which has been fun.

We also like a long walk

Op we have dwindled down to nothing. I love watching something great on net flick but even then it's dwindling. I actually think I may suggest that every month one of us has to plan something... Get baby sitter and go out.

I have 3 DC and at the weekend the DC are bedded and we have a nice dinner, music and drinks together. We occasionally go out for dinner or with friends.
During the week it's Netflix and chill.

It's nice to read different ideas for what we could do. Thanks MNetters.

I think we do need to try harder, we're OK, I just don't want us to drift along until we're not.

Does anyone have 'couple friends' they do stuff with? If so, what?

@poppingbubbles

We kind of have couple friends, more my friends who are married/in relationship and we went on holiday to Berlin 3 couples. Sometimes we go out for dinner but for the most part it’s large groups of friends.