My DS is only 8mo but I am already feeling broody again!

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I must sound mad! I just found out that an ex-friend is pregnant and it has stirred up feeling broody in me big time.

I’m sitting here with my gorgeous 8mo baby DS, and my DD8, yet I am totally wanting to go through another pregnancy and have one more child.

Financially and health-wise, it would be a very bad move. I would need to get another job to qualify for maternity allowance again (I was self employed before), and I think my DH would need therapy (and a vasectomy!) if we did find out we were expecting again.

I know that I am incredibly fortunate to have been blessed with two wonderful and healthy DC, but I just can’t get away from the feeling that I am done yet.

Maybe it is all hormonal and I am totally mad! I just feel really maternal, and love being pregnant, caring for my family and being a mummy.

What can I do to alleviate these feelings? I know it sounds really selfish saying that I really want another one when I have just had my DS, and there are others out there who can’t even have one, but I am overthinking this massively and need a kick up the backside to get some sense into me!

I’m the same. Dd is 8 months and probably since she was about 3 months old I’ve been broody. It’s ridiculous!
I’m envious of pregnant woman. Although when I was pregnant, I was envious of those who already had their babies. Can’t win!
Sorry no real advice!

At this age it's easier to be broody, wait until they are a bit older and you are running around and might feel differently
I think big families are fab (we have one), but small age gaps are hard on existing children and your body (research suggests a minimum of 18 months for your body, it's also much easier on everyone if you can have more while the others are at school and nursery to give everyone some special time.

What does your DH think?

Other thing - there's a lot of rubbish talked on here about knowing when you're done. I have 4 DC's and they are wonderful but we are at full capacity... But even so, every time I take my 5 month old ds4 to a baby group, or a friend announces a pregnancy, I feel a physical ache for another baby! The only cure is remembered that another rbaby will turn into another child, and we will run out of beds, time, money and sanity 😊

4 is great though!

Mossyhill I totally get the feeling that I am envious of other pregnant women - which is totally silly considering I was just pregnant 8 months ago!

It's your hormones. Ride it out and plans for a 2.5 year + gap, trust me you will be thankful for this advice when your DC1 is that bit more independent when you have DC2, when they are hopefully out of nappies (or on their way) and also less of a baby themselves when DC2 arrives and needs you so much.

Ignore the hormones, enjoy DC1 (and some wine).

I've seen this with so many friends, it's not you it's nature trying to be the boss.

Enjoy having DC1 alone a bit longer.

It's a personal choice but ask around, the difference between a child at 18 months/2 years and a 2.5 year old is huge! Plus being very pregnancy and having to race after DC1 when they are at the toddling stage is not so fun either.

You will always have these feelings some of us just are always broody, im the same but as another person said a baby becomes a child.ive been broody for 4years it isnt great. u still have a baby so enjoy that just now dont spoil the time with this baby wanting another .

Small age gaps are AMAZING ... just saying