Noisy (sex) Neighbours

[katannlucy]

Hello,
Just before Christmas I had a very... interesting wakening at 4am by noise coming from above my bedroom. Now, I knew that no one was living above me, until that early morning... New Tenants!!!!
Not only was this noise LOUD it was also extremely uncomfortable being forced to listen to their love making...
This has happened 5 nights out of 7 every week since they moved in and it got so bad last Friday night I had to leave a note through their door at 2.30am. I have since spoken with the tenant and he was extremely embarrassed by it all and didn't realise. I totally understand that they didn't realise but it has left me feeling extremely anxious and unable to get to sleep at night, paranoid I will have to endure it again.
I have bought myself ear plugs, however these worked a little too well and missed my alarm in the morning for work and ended up very late for work.
I also have a 7 year old who i hope to never have to explain what those noises are coming from upstairs.
I live in a maisonette and I have seen from the rental advert for the place above me they have carpet fitted, however in the lease it states they need good insulation underneath carpet and from what I have been told by another neighbour that the carpet that was laid was very cheap so I am unsure if this carpet meets the lease agreements on the insulation.
I am just wondering if I have any right to ask the landlord upstairs to ensure the insulation is adequate enough and if it's not then to get the carpet re-laid with thicker insulation?
It's not only the bedroom antics I have had to endure it's every little noise up there such as walking around, them having a wee and flushing the toilet (they may as well wee in my place, I can hear it so clearly) and talking/playing music.
Would be great if anyone had any similar experiences and got the issue resolved? I'm thinking the insulation isn't good enough and wondered if I had any rights or anyone had any ideas to make me less sleep deprived!
Many thanks for reading this.

I empathise fully - we have similar problems with thin walls in a London terrace. Thankfully not sex (yet) but we can hear every word said (shouted) by our dear millenial neighbours. We have talked to them about any late night noise but it still happens sometimes and it drives me absolutely nuts. My husband is a heavy sleeper and hates confrontation but I respond similarly to you and the only solution I have is to plan moving - I have spoken to them enough times.

You are absolutely within your rights to ask the landlord upstairs to prove to you the insulation is thick enough - hopefully someone will be along who has been in this situation and can tell you how they did it.

I think once it gets under your skin, it's very hard to ignore it. The fact your situation has driven you to the point where you have no other option but to move seems so unfair. I wish in a way I had that option too though! I don't think people realise how noisy they are until they get a taste of it themselves.

I am really struggling with just the everyday noise too as I almost feel trapped in my own home with noise I can't control or block out. I will one day go stir crazy with it all!

Hopefully I can get some answers by contacting the Land Lord or Agents perhaps. Here's hoping.

All the best with finding a new home. Hope you find somewhere you have zero neighbour noise

I'd be tempted to clap and shout "BRAVO!!!!" when they've finished.... or make enough noise to let them know they've woken you up again.

I'd also contact the Landlord and ask them to sort out some sound insulation.

Our neighbours are canny but the ds has a regular stream of gf's. One night - not too long ago he was banging away (and the headboard) - I text him politely could he please move his bed away from our adjoining wall as I needed to get some sleep before work!!
-also sent him a link for Lionel Ritchie's All Night Long!! He saw the humour and all is well - he has moved out to live with recent gf!!