What absolute hell is this? Cannot cope today and want to be alone

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Had today all planned. Should have been fine.

Bit of background is that DM is narcissistic and DD has ASD
I had a very important appt so went to drop DD and baby ds with dm. But she wasn’t up unusually no issue sorted a few things out then she got up and was quiet

Got back and she demanded to know details and there wasn’t much to tell, she had a go at me that actually she might have the same so needed to know everything?? But I haven’t had a diagnosis yet she was angry
I’m the end I snapped said I was leaving and she started saying she hadn’t asked me anything ??!!
Then told ME to calm down over and over and said I’d upset ds? She was pretending what had happened, hadn’t if that makes sense
Then started saying she’s not well but she ‘doesn’t matter’ ?

Dd then got upset said she wanted to go out but she didn’t have money and started demanding some but she’s had her allowance this week?
DM then had a go at me again for upsetting dd telling her I was being unreasonable and didn’t care asi was leaving her penniless ???
I’m not I’ve been trying to reach her how to manage money ? Dm was massively undermining me
Now she’s taken her out for a treat ??
I’m literally sitting here wondering what parallel universe I’ve been transported to

Dd is 18 btw

The joy of families! Big cup of tea or coffee, take a deep breath and know that this too shall pass.

Sounds like there are health worries going on and that always heightens everyone's stress levels. I know that my ASD DS would be in a right tizzy conflating all sorts of issues if he thought I was ill, which never helps.

Hopefully, there will be another sane adult somewhere you can discuss it all with more calmly at some point.

Fingers crossed you get to the bottom of whatever may be wrong soon.

I’m absolutely gobsmacked at how it’s been today. I am exhausted and I was not expecting any of it it was awful and so totally confusing