Meet the Other Phone. Flexible and made to last.

Meet the Other Phone.
Flexible and made to last.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

Chat

Join the discussion and chat with other Mumsnetters about everyday life, relationships and parenting.

Caught my husband cheating and now he’s ignoring me

6 replies

Brokenheart244 · 31/01/2019 12:40

Quite a long story so I’ll try and keep it brief. I have been with my husband 5 years but last summer I had asked him to move out as we were no longer getting on and living with him was becoming unbearable as he was quite mentally abusive. When he did move out I realised that I still loved him and that even though we had our problems that maybe living apart would be the best thing for us so we could work on our marriage but have some space to breathe . This was agreed by him and he was quite excited by it, however it all changed as soon as he moved in he started resenting me and was very verbally agressivse. We had a very up and down 3 months with one minute him saying he didn’t know if he loved me anymore and the next is being back to like we were at the beginning of our relationship. All the time we were still together and still sleeping together. There had been a woman on fb that liked his post and commmented very friendly things and I had brought it up with him and he said I was being stupid and that he would never cheat. Anyway I went round one morning to drop some post off and to cut a long story short he was there with her, gutted was an understatement he tried to tell me it was his landlady but it was definitely her. I was so cross and proceeded to tell her husband she is married with 3 kids. Now my husband is ignoring me I have texted him a few times and rang I did send a couple of nasty texts but a couple that just wanted some answers and that we need to sort out practical things our bank accounts etc I have also mentioned divorce. I suppose I just want to know why he’s ignoring me I would have expected him to be grovelling to me 😞

OP posts:
BlueGlasses · 31/01/2019 12:46

You are well shot of him.

ChrisjenAvasarala · 31/01/2019 12:50

Stop chasing him right now. The more you chase, the more power he has later. Just leave it.

Go see a solicitor. Have everything done properly. And don't take him back; get the divorce.

Weezol · 31/01/2019 12:50

Stop texting him and ring a solicitor.

Interested in this thread?

Then you might like threads about this subject:

Brokenheart244 · 31/01/2019 13:08

I have a solicitors appointment next week and will go for adultery but i just don’t understand the silent treatment it just seems so cruel after what he’s done

OP posts:
GummyGoddess · 31/01/2019 13:18

I don't think you can go for adultery without proof.

Why do you want him grovelling? You don't want him and will be better off without him dragging you down. He's ignoring because he knows he's in the wrong and has been caught, there's nothing he can do so he's ignoring.

Brokenheart244 · 31/01/2019 13:22

I suppose it’s just hard that someone that was supposed to love you can do this and then just let you suffer and not even apologise, if he didn’t want me and wanted her he should have been clear and ended the relationship. I know I should take the moral high ground but I want to know he’s suffering too and that he knows he’s done wrong.

OP posts:
New posts on this thread. Refresh page
Swipe left for the next trending thread