Anyone care to join me in a rant about teenagers?

[WhoopiGoldbergsCat]

I have a horrid 16 year old boy currently sulking in his room as I'm THE worst parent in the world, and he hates me and wishes I was dead. All because I called him out on his rudeness towards me this morning when he called me a stupid woman on his way out the door.
He's is miserable, rude, and spends most of his time in his room,i really dislike him at the moment, he's just such a massive dick and so unreasonable about everything.
I'm reaching for the wine this evening it just seems never ending at the moment, will it ever end??
I'm sure I'm not alone in thinking the teen years absolutely suck!

Imo keeping in tune with teens can be done by insisting tea is eaten together.
He can flounce back off afterwards.

• dm of 3 teens currently. Past teens =5.

Wow, that's a lot of teens! Any more advice greatly appreciated!
It just makes me feel so upset, I've read all the books, and understand about their brains changing etc, but I feel like crying most days because it's just bloody hard.

Oh jeez, I could have written your post just now about my DD, except she's 12! I'm so fed up I feel like crying.

Dd is 12 in March. I'm off sick with the flu. She looked at me with a death stare this morning because I suggested she passed me something I needed.
Dh is also off sick. Hes doing the karate run and taking her licence she forgot an hour ago having being reminded christ knows how many times to take. He's usually at work from 2 pm so has had his eyes opened to how we manage today!

I find myself wondering why the hell they think it's okay to talk to me in a way that they would never dream of speaking to, say a wait staff person or retail assistant, let alone teacher (not least because I'd rip them into so many tiny pieces if I found out we'd need to do a jigsaw to put them back together again).

But somehow, if I draw a line in the sand, I always seem to end up being the bad guy. . .

And Gods forbid they actually have to do anything around the house. . . you know, like make their bed, or load the dishwasher. . . HONESTLY mother. . .

Have you noticed how the only thing that draws them out their room and off their phone with a smile on their dial is the prospect of spending (someone elses) money?

Passes the sav blanc and straws. . .

Mine is an utter asshole, I used to love seeing his cute face every morning, now when he comes downstairs its more a feeling of dread.
I'm not perfect but feel my husband and I are decent parents, give him consequences, don't spoil him and plenty if love and attention, but lately I'm thinking, where did I go wrong?
He's just not very nice, although good in school, he's so awful at home, everyday is the same old shit!

Oh god yes, great idea! My 16 year old has basically turned into her butler/bitch/cash machine, and if I dare to even try and get her to help me in any way she starts yelling about fucking GCSE revision. As if she’s actually doing any revision!! She thinks I was born yesterday. Jesus fucking Christ almighty.

Sorry. That felt great though.

I'm alcohol-free and low-carb right now so I can't even console myself with wine and chocolate now she's gone to bed.

Mine is an ungrateful little shit. The end.

My 13 year old thinks I'm the worse mother in the world and life is sooooo unfair because I want her to go to bed. And no that does not mean with her phone. And no I don't care that her only source if entertainment is a book.

I now appear to have 2 teens in the house - upgrading from prosecco to gin 😫

OP hang in there DD turned the corner at about 17 (14-16 were the worst) and she is 20 now, I am going to be honest it was a relief when she became an adult, very lovely company now.

My DD was a right little madam, as a loan parent it was hard to lay down the law. I was constantly nagging her to wear the correct uniform (I am actually gobsmacked she only got two detentions in 5 years). Refused to do chores other than her washing and change her sheets, had a floordrobe. I did let a lot of that stuff go, as she did work PT from 14 and studied very hard

BUT she moaned about dinner, moaned about never going on holiday, the one I did book at Christmas she nearly refused to come!. Moaned about me never having any money and made me feel guilty (ok I was a skint lone parent and I know that was tough on her, esp as her dad is dead but there was nothing I could do.) I did lose my temper a few times, then there were tears.

I feel better it's not just me, I'm so jealous of my friends who have good relationships with their teens, makes me sad.
Especially one who has a boy the same age as mine, he always hugs her and tells her he loves her, my son won't even be in the same room as me most of the time.

My DD15 has a perfectly good iPhone 5s but says it's useless and she needs a new one. We have a rule that we don't have new phones in this house until the old ones are beyond repair. But she's mortified by her shit phone apparently and it's not fair.

Don't feel bad about the so called perfect son.

He'll be an absolute little shit at school. That's how he gets away with it, because Mummy won't be able to believe that her darling boy could possibly be an arsehole to every other adult in the world and will back him up 100% when he's wailing about getting detention because 'the teacher's picking on me/it wasn't me'.